Ok so i gave him a scrapbook for our one year anniversary,and got him a new wallet for christmas. I think flowers and chocolate are a little too cliche. He%26#039;s into computer and technology sorta things..I need something that will wow him any ideas..?
Valentines Day gift for the guy who has everything..?
Get him something pertaining to the computer. I f possible, find out from family or friends if there is anything that he could really use or needs pertaining to the computer or technology.
Reply:Hey, he already has you, what more does he need on Valentines Day?
-BD
Reply:get him something special... like mayb a dinner by candal lite on da beach or something like that... something meaningful and romantic
Reply:Sex marathon. Seriously set aside a whole day and see how many time you can make sweet love.
Reply:JUst spend time with him
Reply:I bet he doesn%26#039;t have a paainting of you in your most glamorous attire.You can send such a photo to http://www.paintyourlife.com and they will create a wonderful portrait out of it. Try it out and you will tell me the wonders it does to your boyfriend.
The same company also has a studio for oil paintings reproductions. If you are looking for an affordable gift urgently, you can take a look at their %26#039;stock on sale%26#039;. Visit http://www.oil-paintings-reproductions.c...
Reply:As a rule, men appreciate whatever they get from their women and are not that hard to please. You always have to notice and listen to what they are into. Then, a great gift that every man loves to receive is a %26quot;Gift Card%26quot; to their favorite store. Men do not normally like to store, but when they are shopping for themself they love it! So, start listening to where he likes to shop... then, you supply him with a gift card!
Happy Valentine%26#039;s Day and Good Luck!!
Reply:Hi,
Try this site to get some ideas about Valentines day:
http://www.schoolmall.ca/valentines-gift...
Good Luck!
Reply:Two tickets to an event - sports, theatre, music. I hope he%26#039;s covering the dinner!
Reply:I agree with evw
OR
You can have singer go to his job and sing to him, You in a box with nothing but a Bow and whip cream you get the idea.
I weekend out of town?
Reply:A new or good condition cast iron horseshoe without rust with the U shape facing up for good luck and a X-Men action paperback novel from the bookstore.
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Monday, April 13, 2009
How did you know?
A fancy restaurant in New York was offering a promotional deal. A married couple could eat at the restaurant for half-price on their anniversary. To prevent scams, the couple would need proof of their wedding date.
One Thursday evening, a couple claimed it was their anniversary, but didn%26#039;t bring any proof. The restaurant manager was called to speak with the couple. When the manager asked to hear about the wedding day, the wife replied with the following: %26quot;Oh, it was a wonderful Sunday afternoon, birds were chirping, and flowers were in full bloom.%26quot; After nearly 10 minutes of ranting, she comes to tell him that today was their 28th wedding anniversary.
%26quot;How lovely%26quot;, the manager said, %26quot;However, you do not qualify for the discount. Today is not your anniversary, you are a liar%26quot;.
How did the manager know that it wasn%26#039;t their anniversary?
How did you know?
The calendar repeats itself every 28 years, so if they were married on a Sunday 28 years ago, the day they were at the restaurant would also have to be a Sunday, not a Thursday.
Reply:The manager should have given them the discount for the following reasons: -
1. The fact that they remained married for 28 years.
2. They honesty in saying it was they 28th anniversary.
Reply:Don%26#039;t you think the manager would want to be nicer about his approach? I mean, everyone wants a discount, but the manager wants repeat customers. You can TACTFULLY tell them that they don%26#039;t qualify, without calling them an outright liar. The manager should be fired. Very unprofessional and unbecoming of someone in a supervisory role.
Reply:They came in on thursday yet told the story of a sunday wedding?
Reply:The calendar repeats itself every 28 years. So, if they were married on a Sunday 28 years ago, the day they were at the restaurant would also have to be a Sunday. Since it was a Thursday, the manager knew they were lying, and abruptly kicked them out of his restaurant.
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One Thursday evening, a couple claimed it was their anniversary, but didn%26#039;t bring any proof. The restaurant manager was called to speak with the couple. When the manager asked to hear about the wedding day, the wife replied with the following: %26quot;Oh, it was a wonderful Sunday afternoon, birds were chirping, and flowers were in full bloom.%26quot; After nearly 10 minutes of ranting, she comes to tell him that today was their 28th wedding anniversary.
%26quot;How lovely%26quot;, the manager said, %26quot;However, you do not qualify for the discount. Today is not your anniversary, you are a liar%26quot;.
How did the manager know that it wasn%26#039;t their anniversary?
How did you know?
The calendar repeats itself every 28 years, so if they were married on a Sunday 28 years ago, the day they were at the restaurant would also have to be a Sunday, not a Thursday.
Reply:The manager should have given them the discount for the following reasons: -
1. The fact that they remained married for 28 years.
2. They honesty in saying it was they 28th anniversary.
Reply:Don%26#039;t you think the manager would want to be nicer about his approach? I mean, everyone wants a discount, but the manager wants repeat customers. You can TACTFULLY tell them that they don%26#039;t qualify, without calling them an outright liar. The manager should be fired. Very unprofessional and unbecoming of someone in a supervisory role.
Reply:They came in on thursday yet told the story of a sunday wedding?
Reply:The calendar repeats itself every 28 years. So, if they were married on a Sunday 28 years ago, the day they were at the restaurant would also have to be a Sunday. Since it was a Thursday, the manager knew they were lying, and abruptly kicked them out of his restaurant.
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Do you have parents who have never kissed, hugged or said they love each other whilst in your presence?
The only sign of affection that I see is birthday %26amp; anniversary cards. I can%26#039;t remember ever seeing a bunch of flowers in the house. I can%26#039;t believe I%26#039;ve never asked anyone else this, or even talked about it with my brother. I guess I have just accepted it because I was brought up in that environment and took it for granted. They are still married %26amp; living together, apparently content with one another, after more than 30 years.
(they married in their 20%26#039;s).
How unusual is this? What is your interpretation of their relationship with one another %26amp; with my brother %26amp; I?
Do you have parents who have never kissed, hugged or said they love each other whilst in your presence?
It%26#039;s that generation I guess - my parents are exactly the same - they are both in their 60%26#039;s. I expect that your parents were more demonstrative when they were younger - but maybe because you were younger you don%26#039;t remember that or maybe, once they had you guys, they didn%26#039;t have time to kiss and cuddle so much!. Clearly, they have had a long and successful marriage - something to be proud of. I think that their generation was not shown that much affection by their own parents - life was much harder then and so, they are not as affectionate as a result. It might just be a case of %26quot;not in front of the children%26quot; - classic for their generation!
Reply:Just old fashioned I guess
Reply:my mum and dad was the same never show any afection with each other or us lads, i think men are alot soppyer now and women now days wouldn%26#039;t put up with a relationship like that any more, i%26#039;ve been married twice now and this one is nearly over, it will efect you and your bro if you let it if you get a understanding mrs thats not full on in your face then you%26#039;ll be fine , i can%26#039;t be doing with all that soppy stuff , hence twice marreid
Reply:i have never seen my parents show affection to each other in my presence,maybe because we%26#039;re indians!!!
Reply:my parents kiss and cuddle in front of us (me, and my brother and sister) all the time. I think it%26#039;s healthy. Showing emotions and affection is agood thing and lets your children grow up knowing that its good to express your feelings.
Reply:no my parents are different. always hugging and kissing. some times it%26#039;s too much. we us kids have to yell %26quot;get a room. and no more brothers and sisters please. lol%26quot;
Reply:my dad thinks kissing passes germs lol.
Reply:yeah I have parents that don%26#039;t do that stuff and I think it is good but I don%26#039;t want them to do that kind of stuff. I mean its so gross especially if your parents do it.
Reply:Yes I do have parents that don%26#039;t do those things. It is very strange for me not to see that because I see other couples that do that all the time. I think it is because they just grow out of it and they have kids now.
Reply:ya i do ifind it nery weird and jus thought twas their romance gone after 25yers of marriage
Reply:Not everyone is comfortable with showing their emotions in public, or in front of others. It doesn%26#039;t mean that their feelings are none existent. I don%26#039;t remember my parents being overly affectionate with each other but we knew they loved us. My husband and I show our kids that they are loved and we all tell one another that we love each other everyday, just different generations I suppose.
Reply:My parents never show any affection for each other. But if there happy then thats all that matters really.
Reply:yes i have had the same as you,just see things on birthdays,anniversaries etc,never heard them say they love each other,mind you im 46 n not once have they said they loved me,but me im in a loving relationship where we tell each other daily how much we love one another,ppl who say you follow in your parants footsteps tlk a load off bull
Reply:Yes - my sister and I talk about it quite a bit and we both think that%26#039;s why we both have a problem showing our affection.
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(they married in their 20%26#039;s).
How unusual is this? What is your interpretation of their relationship with one another %26amp; with my brother %26amp; I?
Do you have parents who have never kissed, hugged or said they love each other whilst in your presence?
It%26#039;s that generation I guess - my parents are exactly the same - they are both in their 60%26#039;s. I expect that your parents were more demonstrative when they were younger - but maybe because you were younger you don%26#039;t remember that or maybe, once they had you guys, they didn%26#039;t have time to kiss and cuddle so much!. Clearly, they have had a long and successful marriage - something to be proud of. I think that their generation was not shown that much affection by their own parents - life was much harder then and so, they are not as affectionate as a result. It might just be a case of %26quot;not in front of the children%26quot; - classic for their generation!
Reply:Just old fashioned I guess
Reply:my mum and dad was the same never show any afection with each other or us lads, i think men are alot soppyer now and women now days wouldn%26#039;t put up with a relationship like that any more, i%26#039;ve been married twice now and this one is nearly over, it will efect you and your bro if you let it if you get a understanding mrs thats not full on in your face then you%26#039;ll be fine , i can%26#039;t be doing with all that soppy stuff , hence twice marreid
Reply:i have never seen my parents show affection to each other in my presence,maybe because we%26#039;re indians!!!
Reply:my parents kiss and cuddle in front of us (me, and my brother and sister) all the time. I think it%26#039;s healthy. Showing emotions and affection is agood thing and lets your children grow up knowing that its good to express your feelings.
Reply:no my parents are different. always hugging and kissing. some times it%26#039;s too much. we us kids have to yell %26quot;get a room. and no more brothers and sisters please. lol%26quot;
Reply:my dad thinks kissing passes germs lol.
Reply:yeah I have parents that don%26#039;t do that stuff and I think it is good but I don%26#039;t want them to do that kind of stuff. I mean its so gross especially if your parents do it.
Reply:Yes I do have parents that don%26#039;t do those things. It is very strange for me not to see that because I see other couples that do that all the time. I think it is because they just grow out of it and they have kids now.
Reply:ya i do ifind it nery weird and jus thought twas their romance gone after 25yers of marriage
Reply:Not everyone is comfortable with showing their emotions in public, or in front of others. It doesn%26#039;t mean that their feelings are none existent. I don%26#039;t remember my parents being overly affectionate with each other but we knew they loved us. My husband and I show our kids that they are loved and we all tell one another that we love each other everyday, just different generations I suppose.
Reply:My parents never show any affection for each other. But if there happy then thats all that matters really.
Reply:yes i have had the same as you,just see things on birthdays,anniversaries etc,never heard them say they love each other,mind you im 46 n not once have they said they loved me,but me im in a loving relationship where we tell each other daily how much we love one another,ppl who say you follow in your parants footsteps tlk a load off bull
Reply:Yes - my sister and I talk about it quite a bit and we both think that%26#039;s why we both have a problem showing our affection.
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Do women enjoy a day out shopping?
today is our 10 year anniversary. we are not wealthy but i do what i can for my wife. my job requires me to work 12 hour shifts overnight so i suffer from sleep apnea so i have no choice but to sleep during the day between shifts. unfortunately our anniversary falls on one of those days this year. so friday i had flowers (that cost $160) delivered to my wife to enjoy at work and over this weekend. i wasn%26#039;t sure what else to give here given our modest income so i had worked some overtime the week before and told her i was leting her go on a shopping spree today for her anniversary present and that she could spend $500 buying things that make her feel nice and pretty. was this a stupid idea? bad gift? i really want to know.
Do women enjoy a day out shopping?
if you can afford it, then fine. as far as $160 flower arrangement, flowers die so quickly that spending that much on flowers is a little crazy, but is a nice gesture. are you goiong with her when she%26#039;s shopping? that might be nice. can you take off from work? being with you might mean more than just shopping. unfortunately, this question is a litttle late for asking...if the gift comes from the heart, then it%26#039;s nice.
Reply:no i hate shopping.
Reply:I hate shopping personality
Reply:what a great guy-- darlin, i%26#039;ll take 2 of you to go, hold the wife!!
Reply:That sounds like a nice gift. Your a sweet man. Chances are, she%26#039;ll be able to see the sacarfice you are making for her, and that will make her feel special.
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Do women enjoy a day out shopping?
if you can afford it, then fine. as far as $160 flower arrangement, flowers die so quickly that spending that much on flowers is a little crazy, but is a nice gesture. are you goiong with her when she%26#039;s shopping? that might be nice. can you take off from work? being with you might mean more than just shopping. unfortunately, this question is a litttle late for asking...if the gift comes from the heart, then it%26#039;s nice.
Reply:no i hate shopping.
Reply:I hate shopping personality
Reply:what a great guy-- darlin, i%26#039;ll take 2 of you to go, hold the wife!!
Reply:That sounds like a nice gift. Your a sweet man. Chances are, she%26#039;ll be able to see the sacarfice you are making for her, and that will make her feel special.
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6 Month Anniversay Ideas?
I need some help..I don%26#039;t know what to do..Our 6 month anniversary is coming up..I%26#039;m going to buy her flowers and dinner but I need a gift..I%26#039;m looking to spend probably around 100 dollars..Any ideas? Plz help No bed and breakfast..I%26#039;m saving that for a year!
6 Month Anniversay Ideas?
6 month anniversary??? That%26#039;s pretty lame.
Reply:How about celebrating a 6 month aniversary is a stupid idea. Did your g/f (or b/f) suggest it?
Reply:Gold earrings you can get a nice pair for that price and it will be something that she will cherish.
Reply:necklace
perfume
or anything that you can do yourself...
I suggest you gather all your pictures taken with her together..
then make your own collage, and frame it all together..
add some caption if you want..
Reply:take her to a concert.
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6 Month Anniversay Ideas?
6 month anniversary??? That%26#039;s pretty lame.
Reply:How about celebrating a 6 month aniversary is a stupid idea. Did your g/f (or b/f) suggest it?
Reply:Gold earrings you can get a nice pair for that price and it will be something that she will cherish.
Reply:necklace
perfume
or anything that you can do yourself...
I suggest you gather all your pictures taken with her together..
then make your own collage, and frame it all together..
add some caption if you want..
Reply:take her to a concert.
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I,need some ideas for decorations using ribbons for my curtain?
Is my Grandparents 50th anniversary.I have to make decorations using ribbions.e.g flowers,bows but I need a little directions to follow in making it.
I,need some ideas for decorations using ribbons for my curtain?
try this site
http://mariesmanor.bebto.com/Window_Trea...
Reply:If you need them for a cuttian, purchase a wooden dowel or a thin trim form Home Depot with the length needed. Then using a staple gun staple the ribbon the the dowl after cutting it the desired length. Keep the ribbon tight together or loose depending ton the look you want. For extra style try weaving extra ribbon on the tomp in a basket design. Use a hot glue gun to keep in place. Depending on the weight of the curtian you have created you can mount to the wall by using the staple gun, double sided tape ( if temporary), or with simple nails. Depending on the colours you use, this can be very festive.
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I,need some ideas for decorations using ribbons for my curtain?
try this site
http://mariesmanor.bebto.com/Window_Trea...
Reply:If you need them for a cuttian, purchase a wooden dowel or a thin trim form Home Depot with the length needed. Then using a staple gun staple the ribbon the the dowl after cutting it the desired length. Keep the ribbon tight together or loose depending ton the look you want. For extra style try weaving extra ribbon on the tomp in a basket design. Use a hot glue gun to keep in place. Depending on the weight of the curtian you have created you can mount to the wall by using the staple gun, double sided tape ( if temporary), or with simple nails. Depending on the colours you use, this can be very festive.
super nanny
No sex in 2 years living together 3 years?????
long time ago we did it like rabbits. now i am LUCKY to get it on our anniversary. I make dinner 98% of the time, bring home flowers and all that crap constantly, clean house, i work more hours than her (as an architect) and she NEVER wnats to do anything sexual? she seems to conside it %26quot;dirty%26quot; even though we have been together 5years???????????????
No sex in 2 years living together 3 years?????
Surprised you are still around...honestly. You are a trooper! Maybe her sex drive is non-existant. If she is taking medication it may be effecting her. Ask her to go to the doctors and have it checked out. Sounds like some counseling would be beneficial too, to say sex is %26quot;dirty%26quot;. Marriage counseling would also be of benefit. Best of luck.
Reply:Considering it %26quot;dirty%26quot; sounds like a lame excuse. but i guess It could be a psychological or medical problem that can be looked into. Is it possible that you try to hard. Maybe acting like you don%26#039;t want to have sex yourself will make her actually want to have sex. It worked for a friend
Reply:If your relationship is ok outside of the sex part then I wouldnt worry too much, but you should talk to her about what is going on and what the reason is. Communication in a relationship is more important than sex.
Reply:Maybe she needs some counselling. Have you considered that??? Ask her about her life, how she feels about things. Good Luck.
Reply:Maybe she thinks that u have been unfaithful! Maybe she is stepping out! 3 yrs is not long at all!! ~You should still be going like rabbits~
Reply:sounds to me like she is getting alright just not from you
Reply:Maybe you should ask her to her face what%26#039;s going on, because either she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere or something BIG is WRONG in your relationship!!!
Reply:This is really depressed. There is something wrong with your wife I believe. I suggest counceling, seriously.
Or has she been getting it from somewhere else? Just a thought.
Reply:Is she getting it elsewhere?
Not to be rude, but thats normally the case.
Reply:wow what a super guy wish i met you when you were single.
Reply:Then something must be terribly wrong somewhere. try to figure out what (if anything) has changed along the line since this ugly situation started.
Reply:Sorry if she is health woman not over 65. she has sex more then that. she might be cheating on you. If she, is I think you know and it is more then just the sex. The way she acts around you chages you notice it, too.
Reply:I can%26#039;t help but feel sorry for you. I do the same thing to my husband. The only reason why I can say this happens is that, while we think about sex, and love you so much; we just don%26#039;t want to go through with the act. Wometn are getting more mentally exaughsted then we ever used to. We start out wanting it, and then we just turn the act around in our minds to that we don%26#039;t want it for whatever reasons - not getting hurt, was my partner pleasured, work, kids, bills, etc...the only thing i can say is to talk to her, or get some marriage counseling.
Reply:Something has changed in your relationship. Either she is bored with sex or maybe she has found someone more exciting. Try some romance. Make her feel special. Find a way to spice things up and spark her interest. Talk to her and find out what it is she wants. Try to find out what might have changes. Good luck
Reply:You need to go talk to her about it. There%26#039;s obviously something going on. If you truly care about the relationship and she won%26#039;t talk to you about it, insist on couples counseling. This is a symptom of a bigger problem. Good luck.
Reply:make her go to the Dr to rule out any medical problems then go to canceling with her
Reply:Some people are just not compatible. Sounds like when love was new, she was willing to make compromises for you. But now she has you trained, she doesn%26#039;t have to make any concessions to you - you%26#039;re doing everything to please her, without her having to make any effort.
If you can%26#039;t sit down and discuss this honestly, then there%26#039;s something hugely wrong with your relationship in other ways, too. A successful relationship is all about communication - without it, it%26#039;s doomed. Make her sit down and talk about this. If she won%26#039;t, you have your answer.
Reply:.......and you married her because?
Have you brought this to her attention? Do you see the two of you together in another year?
There is another man involved I%26#039;m affraid. If you can not resolve this then you need to call it quits. Cut your loses and move on. That may sound harsh, But it is something you should consider.
Good Luck..........
Reply:Well, that%26#039;s the problem you expect it.
Seduction is an art, bringing flowers is not seduction, neither is cleaning the house.
Take her out on a date. Don%26#039;t expect it, just take her OUT to dinner, hold her hand, compliment her.
It%26#039;s the little things that count.
Cleaning the house is NOT a form of seduction, I don%26#039;t know what gave you that idea. Plan a trip.
Give her a nice massage, stop thinking about only you and what YOU do. Appreciate what she does.
Read what you wrote again.
Nothing you do is actually about HER.
Or hey, maybe she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere, because you aren%26#039;t in tune with her needs.
Sometimes CUDDLING is a nice way to get her going, be sweet.
You seem like you are a complainer.
No one wants to screw a complainer.
Reply:You Seem like a good man to me.....good man is hard to find......she should appreciate you for all what you down for her......because most of us never get that kind of treatments..... It sound like she have a plan doing things behind your back...i would make the first move....leave her before she does....you never knows what%26#039;s in her mine.....check her out!!!!!
Best wishes and good luck
Reply:So if you%26#039;re not married, what keeps you in the relationship?
Do you know for a fact she considers it %26#039;dirty%26#039;?
Guess it%26#039;s counselor time....to find out what the real issue is.
Reply:It%26#039;s been my experience that one should get ALL the pre-marital sex one can, because it by God stops once the ring slides on. Every ******* time...
Reply:Hi Bill,
My soon to be husband lived the same way with his ex-wife, turns out she had a plan, a dirty plan. She was getting %26quot;time%26quot; in, in the marriage to secure her financial future without him. She was awarded $662.50 a month in spousal support and half of his retirement funds for 7 years. They, like you, had sexual relations only on their anniversary. She always had excuses to not be intimate. So, if your married, be aware, she may have a plan and she may be seeing someone else on the side like my mans%26#039; ex was. Good luck.
Reply:shes getting it else where or has caught some thing of some one else . i been with my partner 23 years and we still 2 to three times a week
Reply:This is probably not going to be the best advice, but i think you should flip it on her, make her feel the way you do, unwanted, unapprettiated... see how she reacts to it. If it really bothers her you know that the problem is not that she does%26#039;nt care. If she just goes along with it without inquiring as to what is going on, then you have bigger issues. Be prepared for the worst. Good luck man.
Reply:Why are you still with her ?
Seems like you should have left years ago ...
Leave her..
Move on...
Reply:Im think she is getting it somewhere else dude.
Stop doing so many things for her.
Reply:It sounds to me like she has underlying issues in your relationship. Let me ask a couple things...do you watch porn or visit strip clubs or idolize sexy women in front of her? Have you had children? Maybe she%26#039;s not feeling sexy. Some things to try...try making a night all about her!! I understand that you need sex, however, trust me in the fact that is she%26#039;s satisfied, you will be too!! Pleasure her in every way you can...rub her feet, make her feel sexy and take care of her suxually for a night or two. She may need a renewed sense of feeling sexy and that when you do nice things for her that it%26#039;s not primarily to initiate sex.
Reply:well maybe she has just fallen out of love with you... Or maybe she is depressed that can lead to sexual desires not existing... however i am concerned with the way your question is worded maybe she feels like you think she owes you sex because u do house work and think of bring flowers to her as a chore or maybe she is having an affair.. don%26#039;t really know what to say to this one good luck
Reply:Is it worth asking one of her friends for an idea on what the go is.... females tend to unload on their friends. She might feel all the %26quot;crap%26quot; you do undermines her worth in the relationship which in turn doesn%26#039;t do much for her self-esteem and can lead to a bit of a shut-down (lock-out in your case) in the bedroom because it may be the only thing she feels she still has control over.
Reply:It could be a physical condition or some past trauma that requires counseling. Have you asked her what the problem is? If you are under 60 years old, this is not normal behavior and there is definitely a problem that needs to be addressed because we are sexual beings.
Good luck
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No sex in 2 years living together 3 years?????
Surprised you are still around...honestly. You are a trooper! Maybe her sex drive is non-existant. If she is taking medication it may be effecting her. Ask her to go to the doctors and have it checked out. Sounds like some counseling would be beneficial too, to say sex is %26quot;dirty%26quot;. Marriage counseling would also be of benefit. Best of luck.
Reply:Considering it %26quot;dirty%26quot; sounds like a lame excuse. but i guess It could be a psychological or medical problem that can be looked into. Is it possible that you try to hard. Maybe acting like you don%26#039;t want to have sex yourself will make her actually want to have sex. It worked for a friend
Reply:If your relationship is ok outside of the sex part then I wouldnt worry too much, but you should talk to her about what is going on and what the reason is. Communication in a relationship is more important than sex.
Reply:Maybe she needs some counselling. Have you considered that??? Ask her about her life, how she feels about things. Good Luck.
Reply:Maybe she thinks that u have been unfaithful! Maybe she is stepping out! 3 yrs is not long at all!! ~You should still be going like rabbits~
Reply:sounds to me like she is getting alright just not from you
Reply:Maybe you should ask her to her face what%26#039;s going on, because either she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere or something BIG is WRONG in your relationship!!!
Reply:This is really depressed. There is something wrong with your wife I believe. I suggest counceling, seriously.
Or has she been getting it from somewhere else? Just a thought.
Reply:Is she getting it elsewhere?
Not to be rude, but thats normally the case.
Reply:wow what a super guy wish i met you when you were single.
Reply:Then something must be terribly wrong somewhere. try to figure out what (if anything) has changed along the line since this ugly situation started.
Reply:Sorry if she is health woman not over 65. she has sex more then that. she might be cheating on you. If she, is I think you know and it is more then just the sex. The way she acts around you chages you notice it, too.
Reply:I can%26#039;t help but feel sorry for you. I do the same thing to my husband. The only reason why I can say this happens is that, while we think about sex, and love you so much; we just don%26#039;t want to go through with the act. Wometn are getting more mentally exaughsted then we ever used to. We start out wanting it, and then we just turn the act around in our minds to that we don%26#039;t want it for whatever reasons - not getting hurt, was my partner pleasured, work, kids, bills, etc...the only thing i can say is to talk to her, or get some marriage counseling.
Reply:Something has changed in your relationship. Either she is bored with sex or maybe she has found someone more exciting. Try some romance. Make her feel special. Find a way to spice things up and spark her interest. Talk to her and find out what it is she wants. Try to find out what might have changes. Good luck
Reply:You need to go talk to her about it. There%26#039;s obviously something going on. If you truly care about the relationship and she won%26#039;t talk to you about it, insist on couples counseling. This is a symptom of a bigger problem. Good luck.
Reply:make her go to the Dr to rule out any medical problems then go to canceling with her
Reply:Some people are just not compatible. Sounds like when love was new, she was willing to make compromises for you. But now she has you trained, she doesn%26#039;t have to make any concessions to you - you%26#039;re doing everything to please her, without her having to make any effort.
If you can%26#039;t sit down and discuss this honestly, then there%26#039;s something hugely wrong with your relationship in other ways, too. A successful relationship is all about communication - without it, it%26#039;s doomed. Make her sit down and talk about this. If she won%26#039;t, you have your answer.
Reply:.......and you married her because?
Have you brought this to her attention? Do you see the two of you together in another year?
There is another man involved I%26#039;m affraid. If you can not resolve this then you need to call it quits. Cut your loses and move on. That may sound harsh, But it is something you should consider.
Good Luck..........
Reply:Well, that%26#039;s the problem you expect it.
Seduction is an art, bringing flowers is not seduction, neither is cleaning the house.
Take her out on a date. Don%26#039;t expect it, just take her OUT to dinner, hold her hand, compliment her.
It%26#039;s the little things that count.
Cleaning the house is NOT a form of seduction, I don%26#039;t know what gave you that idea. Plan a trip.
Give her a nice massage, stop thinking about only you and what YOU do. Appreciate what she does.
Read what you wrote again.
Nothing you do is actually about HER.
Or hey, maybe she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere, because you aren%26#039;t in tune with her needs.
Sometimes CUDDLING is a nice way to get her going, be sweet.
You seem like you are a complainer.
No one wants to screw a complainer.
Reply:You Seem like a good man to me.....good man is hard to find......she should appreciate you for all what you down for her......because most of us never get that kind of treatments..... It sound like she have a plan doing things behind your back...i would make the first move....leave her before she does....you never knows what%26#039;s in her mine.....check her out!!!!!
Best wishes and good luck
Reply:So if you%26#039;re not married, what keeps you in the relationship?
Do you know for a fact she considers it %26#039;dirty%26#039;?
Guess it%26#039;s counselor time....to find out what the real issue is.
Reply:It%26#039;s been my experience that one should get ALL the pre-marital sex one can, because it by God stops once the ring slides on. Every ******* time...
Reply:Hi Bill,
My soon to be husband lived the same way with his ex-wife, turns out she had a plan, a dirty plan. She was getting %26quot;time%26quot; in, in the marriage to secure her financial future without him. She was awarded $662.50 a month in spousal support and half of his retirement funds for 7 years. They, like you, had sexual relations only on their anniversary. She always had excuses to not be intimate. So, if your married, be aware, she may have a plan and she may be seeing someone else on the side like my mans%26#039; ex was. Good luck.
Reply:shes getting it else where or has caught some thing of some one else . i been with my partner 23 years and we still 2 to three times a week
Reply:This is probably not going to be the best advice, but i think you should flip it on her, make her feel the way you do, unwanted, unapprettiated... see how she reacts to it. If it really bothers her you know that the problem is not that she does%26#039;nt care. If she just goes along with it without inquiring as to what is going on, then you have bigger issues. Be prepared for the worst. Good luck man.
Reply:Why are you still with her ?
Seems like you should have left years ago ...
Leave her..
Move on...
Reply:Im think she is getting it somewhere else dude.
Stop doing so many things for her.
Reply:It sounds to me like she has underlying issues in your relationship. Let me ask a couple things...do you watch porn or visit strip clubs or idolize sexy women in front of her? Have you had children? Maybe she%26#039;s not feeling sexy. Some things to try...try making a night all about her!! I understand that you need sex, however, trust me in the fact that is she%26#039;s satisfied, you will be too!! Pleasure her in every way you can...rub her feet, make her feel sexy and take care of her suxually for a night or two. She may need a renewed sense of feeling sexy and that when you do nice things for her that it%26#039;s not primarily to initiate sex.
Reply:well maybe she has just fallen out of love with you... Or maybe she is depressed that can lead to sexual desires not existing... however i am concerned with the way your question is worded maybe she feels like you think she owes you sex because u do house work and think of bring flowers to her as a chore or maybe she is having an affair.. don%26#039;t really know what to say to this one good luck
Reply:Is it worth asking one of her friends for an idea on what the go is.... females tend to unload on their friends. She might feel all the %26quot;crap%26quot; you do undermines her worth in the relationship which in turn doesn%26#039;t do much for her self-esteem and can lead to a bit of a shut-down (lock-out in your case) in the bedroom because it may be the only thing she feels she still has control over.
Reply:It could be a physical condition or some past trauma that requires counseling. Have you asked her what the problem is? If you are under 60 years old, this is not normal behavior and there is definitely a problem that needs to be addressed because we are sexual beings.
Good luck
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Valentine's Day..... I'm kinda hurt...... I need suggestions please ++++++++++++++?
My boyfriend and I celebrated our Valentine%26#039;s Anniversary lastnight. He took me out to eat. And I got him a memory box with all sorts of stuff I made for him. He liked it.
For some reason, I want more. I want him to atleast give me a card, or a stuffed animal, or flowers. I just want something to look at and think of our first anniversary together.
Lastnight honestly just felt like any other day we hung out. Except we went out and ate... by ourselves. He dressed up though when he said he didn%26#039;t want to. I thought that was sweet.
Last Valentine%26#039;s Day, he asked me out with a card he made, a little stuffed animal, and a bag of chocolates he got for me.
I told him thank you for dinner. I didn%26#039;t tell him I just wanted a little stuffed animal or perhaps a card also. I didn%26#039;t want to hurt him.
I feel like an a s s for feeling this way. This is our first anniversary together... actually my first anniversary EVER.
Am I weird for feeling like I want more? What should I do?
Valentine%26#039;s Day..... I%26#039;m kinda hurt...... I need suggestions please ++++++++++++++?
He took you out to dinner, he got dressed up and you had a more adult Valentines Day than last year. Last year was a baby-style day with silly little childish toys.
Be grateful, thankful and stop feeling weird. Stuffed animals are for babies. Dinner out is for mature couples.
Reply:first valentines aren%26#039;t very romantic wait till next year
nanny
For some reason, I want more. I want him to atleast give me a card, or a stuffed animal, or flowers. I just want something to look at and think of our first anniversary together.
Lastnight honestly just felt like any other day we hung out. Except we went out and ate... by ourselves. He dressed up though when he said he didn%26#039;t want to. I thought that was sweet.
Last Valentine%26#039;s Day, he asked me out with a card he made, a little stuffed animal, and a bag of chocolates he got for me.
I told him thank you for dinner. I didn%26#039;t tell him I just wanted a little stuffed animal or perhaps a card also. I didn%26#039;t want to hurt him.
I feel like an a s s for feeling this way. This is our first anniversary together... actually my first anniversary EVER.
Am I weird for feeling like I want more? What should I do?
Valentine%26#039;s Day..... I%26#039;m kinda hurt...... I need suggestions please ++++++++++++++?
He took you out to dinner, he got dressed up and you had a more adult Valentines Day than last year. Last year was a baby-style day with silly little childish toys.
Be grateful, thankful and stop feeling weird. Stuffed animals are for babies. Dinner out is for mature couples.
Reply:first valentines aren%26#039;t very romantic wait till next year
nanny
Valentine's Day..... I'm kinda hurt....... Suggestions Please +++++++++++++++?
My boyfriend and I celebrated our Valentine%26#039;s Anniversary lastnight. He took me out to eat. And I got him a memory box with all sorts of stuff I made for him. He liked it.
For some reason, I want more. I want him to atleast give me a card, or a stuffed animal, or flowers. I just want something to look at and think of our first anniversary together.
Lastnight honestly just felt like any other day we hung out. Except we went out and ate... by ourselves. He dressed up though when he said he didn%26#039;t want to. I thought that was sweet.
Last Valentine%26#039;s Day, he asked me out with a card he made, a little stuffed animal, and a bag of chocolates he got for me.
I told him thank you for dinner. I didn%26#039;t tell him I just wanted a little stuffed animal or perhaps a card also. I didn%26#039;t want to hurt him.
I feel like an a s s for feeling this way. This is our first anniversary together... actually my first anniversary EVER.
Am I weird for feeling like I want more? What should I do?
Valentine%26#039;s Day..... I%26#039;m kinda hurt....... Suggestions Please +++++++++++++++?
Wow It%26#039;s been a long time since I had a first anniversary but I%26#039;ll give it a shot.
My wife actively complains to me about not feeling she got %26quot;enough%26quot; on any given occasion. But we have 13 years of marriage to back that up. It took a while for us to learn how to hear those things without being offended. Now when one of us doesn%26#039;t %26quot;feel%26quot; right we tell each other. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. You are never wrong for having a feeling. You need to be honest with him. He may not even know he was supposed to do something. He also may be waiting for the big day itself. You could be jumping the gun so to speak.
I know that after the fact it%26#039;s like why bother but if you feel this way and don%26#039;t tell him you will never have the problem fixed. Give him a chance to make it right but be honest with him.
Good luck and don%26#039;t panic it takes ALOT of work for a relationship to work.
Reply:No Its perfectly normal I felt the same way when my bf forgot our 1 month anniversary and didn%26#039;t even think about it. I think that you should just let it past guys sometimes forgot things and its not their fault stuff happens.
Reply:%26#039;i think u should be honest and tell him how u feel.theres nothing to be guilty about.wanting a mememto of a happy time is romantic and maybe he shoulda known.
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For some reason, I want more. I want him to atleast give me a card, or a stuffed animal, or flowers. I just want something to look at and think of our first anniversary together.
Lastnight honestly just felt like any other day we hung out. Except we went out and ate... by ourselves. He dressed up though when he said he didn%26#039;t want to. I thought that was sweet.
Last Valentine%26#039;s Day, he asked me out with a card he made, a little stuffed animal, and a bag of chocolates he got for me.
I told him thank you for dinner. I didn%26#039;t tell him I just wanted a little stuffed animal or perhaps a card also. I didn%26#039;t want to hurt him.
I feel like an a s s for feeling this way. This is our first anniversary together... actually my first anniversary EVER.
Am I weird for feeling like I want more? What should I do?
Valentine%26#039;s Day..... I%26#039;m kinda hurt....... Suggestions Please +++++++++++++++?
Wow It%26#039;s been a long time since I had a first anniversary but I%26#039;ll give it a shot.
My wife actively complains to me about not feeling she got %26quot;enough%26quot; on any given occasion. But we have 13 years of marriage to back that up. It took a while for us to learn how to hear those things without being offended. Now when one of us doesn%26#039;t %26quot;feel%26quot; right we tell each other. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. You are never wrong for having a feeling. You need to be honest with him. He may not even know he was supposed to do something. He also may be waiting for the big day itself. You could be jumping the gun so to speak.
I know that after the fact it%26#039;s like why bother but if you feel this way and don%26#039;t tell him you will never have the problem fixed. Give him a chance to make it right but be honest with him.
Good luck and don%26#039;t panic it takes ALOT of work for a relationship to work.
Reply:No Its perfectly normal I felt the same way when my bf forgot our 1 month anniversary and didn%26#039;t even think about it. I think that you should just let it past guys sometimes forgot things and its not their fault stuff happens.
Reply:%26#039;i think u should be honest and tell him how u feel.theres nothing to be guilty about.wanting a mememto of a happy time is romantic and maybe he shoulda known.
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Is #87 on ne patriots the guy in the commercial?
it is the commercial where he delivers flowers to a lady w/red hair on her wedding anniversary
Is #87 on ne patriots the guy in the commercial?
the pats don%26#039;t have a number 87 on their team...
Reply:duh-i guess that question should have been researched by me on a sunday-but thanks! Report It
loan
Is #87 on ne patriots the guy in the commercial?
the pats don%26#039;t have a number 87 on their team...
Reply:duh-i guess that question should have been researched by me on a sunday-but thanks! Report It
loan
Does he love me? did he ever love me? His behavior is this normal? Is he genuine or not?
My hub is my true love. He used to return it during the time we had the affair, but when we got married he changed, not romantic, not adventurous, not kissing me when he goes out (not that he did it before). No love making in the bath,no flowers. He does not buy even a card for our anniversary, says I should do that. I did all that before but I am fed up now. He is very good looking and guess he likes it when we made love. But sex was not very creative for him just do this or the other..,I cannot but sigh, I need colour in loving ,caring and being very demonstrative,Sorry if this is too bold but I need an answer. Is this a particular type of men who look gorgeous but not very imaginative? Or is he particularly %26quot;off%26quot; because I am his wife? I am not a true beauty but am cute and have my share of charm. I am independent and wouldn%26#039;t be his totally submissive woman as most of the Asian women. I argue,challenge and not dependent. whats the matter with us?
Does he love me? did he ever love me? His behavior is this normal? Is he genuine or not?
Girl, sorry to be the one to tell you this but, he%26#039;s just not that into you. It%26#039;s hard to hear, but once you realize that is what%26#039;s happening, it%26#039;s liberating!!!!
Reply:He is still living with you. . . so, you had all the time and opportunity to show him. . .a different you. Maybe its just not him, maybe you also had changed. . . you take him for granted and no longer exert effort to charm him. . Try to inject romantic atmosphere at home, and surprise him with things that you knew he love and enjoy doing while you%26#039;re still just living-in/having an affair. Daily grind becomes monotonous when you do things the same, day in and day out. If you do things differently, he might stop and think what is wrong. . . and he might demand explanations - Do so, open up. . so that you%26#039;ll both know whats wrong, instead of trying to guess. Its better to blow his cool and have a shouting match than a live and let live attitude. Talk things over. So you%26#039;ll know if its really over. and you will be able to move on.
Reply:maybe, then again,maybe not
Reply:u don understand him at all?
u two are just loving each other by outside looks.
true love need understanding of each feelings...
u just loving a guy with cool looking and handsome face but u didnt know the heart of that man....
love is also a feeling to understand..
if u understand it i am sure u know what is going on..
but i guess.. if u love him u would understand him..
wel i don call this true love..... since u don understand him or understand wad change u... we can%26#039;t help u here. this is ur love problem. the problem for u to understand.. love
Reply:He may have only been aroused because you were having an affair. Now that you are married, the %26quot;thrill%26quot; is gone. He has lost interest in you because you are now his wife and not his mistress.
Reply:Hi, first, believe it that there%26#039;s nothing wrong with you..I know how you feel, it%26#039;s normal for a woman to feel that, when not feel loved, we all jumped up to conclusion that there%26#039;s something wrong with us. What is wrong is the way you interact with each other, maybe sometimes you allow each of you some time and space alone, without trying to cling to each other all the time. Both of you will enjoy yourselves and it will be happier when it comes to share time together again. I hope that helps.
Reply:think he loved the affair more than what he has now....a submissive mouse...get strong girl find someone who does it FOR YOU, let him worry bout himself.
puppy teeth
Does he love me? did he ever love me? His behavior is this normal? Is he genuine or not?
Girl, sorry to be the one to tell you this but, he%26#039;s just not that into you. It%26#039;s hard to hear, but once you realize that is what%26#039;s happening, it%26#039;s liberating!!!!
Reply:He is still living with you. . . so, you had all the time and opportunity to show him. . .a different you. Maybe its just not him, maybe you also had changed. . . you take him for granted and no longer exert effort to charm him. . Try to inject romantic atmosphere at home, and surprise him with things that you knew he love and enjoy doing while you%26#039;re still just living-in/having an affair. Daily grind becomes monotonous when you do things the same, day in and day out. If you do things differently, he might stop and think what is wrong. . . and he might demand explanations - Do so, open up. . so that you%26#039;ll both know whats wrong, instead of trying to guess. Its better to blow his cool and have a shouting match than a live and let live attitude. Talk things over. So you%26#039;ll know if its really over. and you will be able to move on.
Reply:maybe, then again,maybe not
Reply:u don understand him at all?
u two are just loving each other by outside looks.
true love need understanding of each feelings...
u just loving a guy with cool looking and handsome face but u didnt know the heart of that man....
love is also a feeling to understand..
if u understand it i am sure u know what is going on..
but i guess.. if u love him u would understand him..
wel i don call this true love..... since u don understand him or understand wad change u... we can%26#039;t help u here. this is ur love problem. the problem for u to understand.. love
Reply:He may have only been aroused because you were having an affair. Now that you are married, the %26quot;thrill%26quot; is gone. He has lost interest in you because you are now his wife and not his mistress.
Reply:Hi, first, believe it that there%26#039;s nothing wrong with you..I know how you feel, it%26#039;s normal for a woman to feel that, when not feel loved, we all jumped up to conclusion that there%26#039;s something wrong with us. What is wrong is the way you interact with each other, maybe sometimes you allow each of you some time and space alone, without trying to cling to each other all the time. Both of you will enjoy yourselves and it will be happier when it comes to share time together again. I hope that helps.
Reply:think he loved the affair more than what he has now....a submissive mouse...get strong girl find someone who does it FOR YOU, let him worry bout himself.
puppy teeth
How lucky am I?
Today is our wedding anniversary and not only did our kids give us flowers, but my husband remembered the occassion and gave me a new watch for a gift! No kitchen appliances or towels this year...how wonderful is that, I ask you? And yes, I remembered too; he got several nice gifts!
How lucky am I?
You are very lucky. congratulations on a happy marriage!!
Happy anniversary.
I love to hear such happy news because you give the rest of us hope.
Reply:Congrats on marrying a man who remembers that kind of stuff. I always have to put an alert in my husbands phone to remind him of special occasions. That way he never forgets. He%26#039;s bad with dates.
Reply:Don%26#039;t fall for the illusions of this consumerist society. You are not lucky because you got gifts. You are lucky because you have a family that is in good health and loves you.
Reply:Congratulations. and you are special this year. you got a watch.
Reply:Congragulations and happy anniversary.
Reply:Aww.. that is so sweet! It feels good to be remember on your special days.. enjoy your watch and your flowers and Happy Anniversary! :)
Reebok
How lucky am I?
You are very lucky. congratulations on a happy marriage!!
Happy anniversary.
I love to hear such happy news because you give the rest of us hope.
Reply:Congrats on marrying a man who remembers that kind of stuff. I always have to put an alert in my husbands phone to remind him of special occasions. That way he never forgets. He%26#039;s bad with dates.
Reply:Don%26#039;t fall for the illusions of this consumerist society. You are not lucky because you got gifts. You are lucky because you have a family that is in good health and loves you.
Reply:Congratulations. and you are special this year. you got a watch.
Reply:Congragulations and happy anniversary.
Reply:Aww.. that is so sweet! It feels good to be remember on your special days.. enjoy your watch and your flowers and Happy Anniversary! :)
Reebok
I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?
We met online Nov. of 2003.We met in person Feb. of 2004.I thought he loves me.Coz i fell in love right away.I got pregnant.We got married August of 2004.Last year,we celebrated our first year anniversary and we just went out to eat.No flowers or anything.He treated me like im his helper.Do this do that.Ive done everything he wants me to do to prove him that I love him.I helped his mom with her business too.Three days ago, he told me that when we met he didnt love me.The worst is he didnt even love me when we got married.We%26#039;re married now for almost 2 years.Ive say that%26#039;s cheating.He cheated on my feelings.He said that he learned how to love me .And he love me now.I dont know what to do.Pls help me.I value my marriage but i dont wanna be with someone who doesnt love me.It hurts me so much thinking that my wedding is suppose to be the happiest day in my life but it isn%26#039;t after he revealed his secrets.
I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?
To have your husband trust you enough to admit he didn%26#039;t love you in the past (or, maybe more accurately, he wasn%26#039;t SURE he loved you) but tell you he has learned to love you and LOVES YOU NOW can be a wonderful act of love in itself. If you do love him, then stop listening with your PRIDE and listen with your heart instead.
And who says your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest in your life? Why not think of it as the first day of your life together as a family. Then there will be room for even happoer days, like your baby%26#039;s birth day. Don%26#039;t spend your life measuring happiness by looking backwards...look forwards instead. Good luck.
Reply:It is possible not to love a person at first and over time love to come. I believe it is best for a person to grow to love because when you learn to love, that means that they have accepted everything about that person, good and bad. And if that person stayed in the marriage, that shows that the love for has developed and grown over the course of the years you have been together. Don%26#039;t fret. Growing into love is a GOOD THING!
Reply:Dear, give him one more chance since he%26#039;s willing to confess. Think of it as forgiving him and at least let your child experience a full family warmth.
If it doesn%26#039;t improve, then sack him out of your life.
Reply:Im really sorry that happend. Well it looks like you guys getting pregnant rushed the wedding a bit. Maybe he had feeling for you but he was not all the way to the love yet. If he married you is because he knew that you are the perfect person for him and that he was and would fall in love with you. He might of %26quot;loved%26quot; you but it took him a bit to fall %26quot;In love%26quot; it happends to everyone. Women tend to fall more rapidly and quicker than men do. If he married you is because he really did love you and it was probably hard for him to addmit. It happend to me too at the beginning of my relationship, my b/f just did not want to let his feelings go. he was scared, he was hurt before but I gave it time. We%26#039;ve been dating for now 4 years and now we are engaged. Maybe thats what happend to your husband. Just give time some time. Hes probably trying to protect himself from hurt or not treating you nice not to get so attached. Things went kind of fast with your relationship as it is.
As farest him not treating you very nice. Thats a no no! Dont matter who it is you should know that you deserve better. When he does things that you do not like let him know politely. You are not his made, you are not his waiter, you are his wife and the mother of HIS kids. let him know you will like some respect. Please dont let this problem get too big. You should sit down and talk to him about what he wants, what you want and your feelings openly. A marriage is built mostly on communication and trust. he lied? Yes. but he probably did it to protect you because he knew it will hurt you and then maybe decided that it was best to be honest. This seems a bit like if you guys did not know eachother well when you married.
If you care about your marriage, try to work it out but if he treats you that bad and you can tell that the relationship gives you more pain than happiness is time to have a serious talk.
Reply:leave him!!!he just wants you to do stuff for him
Reply:Can you tell you moved a little too fast here? Look deep before you leap. I hope you can work it out, but if he says he doesn%26#039;t love you, you%26#039;ll only be miserable trying to make somebody stay. Sometimes moving on hurts, but you;ll be a better person for. Next time take time out to know a person in and out as much as you can.
Reply:Get over it. He says he loves you now.
Reply:Dump him, he%26#039;s not worth this ****.
Reply:Leave this dumbass loser
How can you stay with someone who doesn%26#039;t love you
Do you value yourself that little
Get the hell outta there!
Reply:He loves you now and that is what is important. You all barely knew each other before you got pregnant but he was a man and married you anyway. He could have ran off and never been there for you and the baby.
Don%26#039;t crush him for being honest with you or he won%26#039;t be anymore. You all have been together for two years now. Keep living happily and raising your child. The past is the past.
Good luck!
Reply:Do you believe he loves you? Do you love him? If you love him and believe he loves you, the past should stay in the past...it doesn%26#039;t matter anymore.
If you don%26#039;t love him, or are certain he doesn%26#039;t love you, then you need to reconsider the marriage, as that will be bad for your child.
Sounds like marriage counseling would be a very good idea.
Reply:It sounds like he is using you. Leave him and enjoy looking after your baby. Enjoy living alone for awhile and then go find someone that does love and respect you.
loan
I need your help.my husband revealed a shocking confessions.?
To have your husband trust you enough to admit he didn%26#039;t love you in the past (or, maybe more accurately, he wasn%26#039;t SURE he loved you) but tell you he has learned to love you and LOVES YOU NOW can be a wonderful act of love in itself. If you do love him, then stop listening with your PRIDE and listen with your heart instead.
And who says your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest in your life? Why not think of it as the first day of your life together as a family. Then there will be room for even happoer days, like your baby%26#039;s birth day. Don%26#039;t spend your life measuring happiness by looking backwards...look forwards instead. Good luck.
Reply:It is possible not to love a person at first and over time love to come. I believe it is best for a person to grow to love because when you learn to love, that means that they have accepted everything about that person, good and bad. And if that person stayed in the marriage, that shows that the love for has developed and grown over the course of the years you have been together. Don%26#039;t fret. Growing into love is a GOOD THING!
Reply:Dear, give him one more chance since he%26#039;s willing to confess. Think of it as forgiving him and at least let your child experience a full family warmth.
If it doesn%26#039;t improve, then sack him out of your life.
Reply:Im really sorry that happend. Well it looks like you guys getting pregnant rushed the wedding a bit. Maybe he had feeling for you but he was not all the way to the love yet. If he married you is because he knew that you are the perfect person for him and that he was and would fall in love with you. He might of %26quot;loved%26quot; you but it took him a bit to fall %26quot;In love%26quot; it happends to everyone. Women tend to fall more rapidly and quicker than men do. If he married you is because he really did love you and it was probably hard for him to addmit. It happend to me too at the beginning of my relationship, my b/f just did not want to let his feelings go. he was scared, he was hurt before but I gave it time. We%26#039;ve been dating for now 4 years and now we are engaged. Maybe thats what happend to your husband. Just give time some time. Hes probably trying to protect himself from hurt or not treating you nice not to get so attached. Things went kind of fast with your relationship as it is.
As farest him not treating you very nice. Thats a no no! Dont matter who it is you should know that you deserve better. When he does things that you do not like let him know politely. You are not his made, you are not his waiter, you are his wife and the mother of HIS kids. let him know you will like some respect. Please dont let this problem get too big. You should sit down and talk to him about what he wants, what you want and your feelings openly. A marriage is built mostly on communication and trust. he lied? Yes. but he probably did it to protect you because he knew it will hurt you and then maybe decided that it was best to be honest. This seems a bit like if you guys did not know eachother well when you married.
If you care about your marriage, try to work it out but if he treats you that bad and you can tell that the relationship gives you more pain than happiness is time to have a serious talk.
Reply:leave him!!!he just wants you to do stuff for him
Reply:Can you tell you moved a little too fast here? Look deep before you leap. I hope you can work it out, but if he says he doesn%26#039;t love you, you%26#039;ll only be miserable trying to make somebody stay. Sometimes moving on hurts, but you;ll be a better person for. Next time take time out to know a person in and out as much as you can.
Reply:Get over it. He says he loves you now.
Reply:Dump him, he%26#039;s not worth this ****.
Reply:Leave this dumbass loser
How can you stay with someone who doesn%26#039;t love you
Do you value yourself that little
Get the hell outta there!
Reply:He loves you now and that is what is important. You all barely knew each other before you got pregnant but he was a man and married you anyway. He could have ran off and never been there for you and the baby.
Don%26#039;t crush him for being honest with you or he won%26#039;t be anymore. You all have been together for two years now. Keep living happily and raising your child. The past is the past.
Good luck!
Reply:Do you believe he loves you? Do you love him? If you love him and believe he loves you, the past should stay in the past...it doesn%26#039;t matter anymore.
If you don%26#039;t love him, or are certain he doesn%26#039;t love you, then you need to reconsider the marriage, as that will be bad for your child.
Sounds like marriage counseling would be a very good idea.
Reply:It sounds like he is using you. Leave him and enjoy looking after your baby. Enjoy living alone for awhile and then go find someone that does love and respect you.
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I Spend Way More than my Boyfriend?
So here is the thing...I have been dating my boyfriend for more than two months and he is not bought ONE thing for me! Forget anniversary gifts and whatnot, he has never bought me flowers! I mean I just graduated with my MASTER%26#039;S a few weeks ago and he met my parents for the first time. He didn%26#039;t even give me a graduation gift, I would have been happy with just a card! Generally, when we go out to eat or anything I end up paying or we end up splitting. I really want this relationship to last because I care a lot about him. I know he cares a lot about me too and trust me I am not high maintenance at all. Its just nice to be appreciated. But I am seriously afraid that my wallet is going to go bare! I understand that he does not make that much money, but he is able to afford gifts for his family members ALL the time, so how can he not afford to buy me a $15 flower bouquet? I am not anywhere close to being a gold digger. I just don%26#039;t get it! Any advice will help me. Thanks.
I Spend Way More than my Boyfriend?
Have you told him how you feel? If you don%26#039;t talk about it with him it%26#039;s just going to bug you. If your afraid to flat out put him on the spot then why don%26#039;t you play it like this tell him your broke and you can%26#039;t afford to go out any more that you%26#039;ll have to just eat at home. If you make a disaster out of the meal if he%26#039;s hungry then he%26#039;ll take you out to dinner.
Reply:gift giving is always a sensitive issue, but paying for a meal is simple couriessness. talk to him. if you care about him as much as you say, then you should be able to have a serious conversation with him about it. tell him he needs to get in line. Tell him to watch a few lifetime movies and see how many times a guy pays for his date.
Reply:Good thing you just got a masters degree, that way you%26#039;ll be able to support him! Money isn%26#039;t everything, and if you two stick together then it will all be both of yours anyway. If you%26#039;re that serious about this relationship, be direct and ask him. You never know, he just might have good reason.
Reply:It has only been 2 months. Relax a little. Do you need gifts to validate his feelings for you? Think about what he%26#039;d do if he saw this question. He%26#039;d probably be mortified and SPLIT. Sorry to say. If you care about him, wait it out. If it is that important to you... move on. Congratulations on your masters by the way. It is a great accomplishment.
Reply:Oh Honey NO! Let him go he didn%26#039;t even get you a graduation present your masters at that! Lose him this whole paying for dinner everytime....no doesn%26#039;t work for me and shouldn%26#039;t work for you. I think he is using you what happens when you get that GREAT JOB with your new master degree (CONGRAT by the way) and start rolling in all that money..think about it! Lose him ASAP you can find someone else
Reply:I assume he knows you wanted flowers and a card? Because men can%26#039;t read minds.
If you keep paying for dinner, he will accept that. If you want him to pay, then you have to wait until he invites you, and then make sure he understands that %26quot;person who invites does the paying.%26quot; It%26#039;s a rule of etiquette.
Reply:lol me and my gf have kinda the opposite problem..we argue about who%26#039;s paying lol..buy err... budget problem? even though that doesn%26#039;t really solve the what...7 dollar card? hrm..thats a hard one...but good luck with that..sorry i can%26#039;t really give u an answer
Reply:am not materialistic either...but i know how you feel...its just you wanna feel loved and appreciated...!
maybe he%26#039;s too stingy i don%26#039;t know...sry about that!
Reply:YEA, SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT MATERIALISTICE LIKE ME.
THEYRE ARE MORE THINGS TO LIFE THAN THINGS ON OCCASIONS,,,FLOWERS DIE, CARDS ARE THROWN AWAY...WHOA I THIHNK I HAVE ISSUES TO HELP ME TOO LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS
Reply:wat they said
Reply:Well ya%26#039;ll she%26#039;s smart enough to get a Master%26#039;s Degree but not smart enough to dump a loser.
Girl if you were mine, I would be showering you with Gold Diamonds, Flowers, Lingerie and Champangue.
But if I did that I would expect you to dump me for some broke @$$ loser with no job who lives with his mom who can give you EXCITEMENT while I am busting my balls at work to be a Good Provider.
Find someone with the same ambitions as you or suffer the consequences
Reply:Glad your only two months in because I think the guy your with is going to expect you to buy everything. If thats the relationship you want to be in then i hope your going to be making a lot of dough with that master you just recieved. If you want to be in a good relationship then watch out for the loser sign%26#039;s at the start to boot his but. You know what this means and how you feel about it or why else would you be on here asking?! good luck with that....
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I Spend Way More than my Boyfriend?
Have you told him how you feel? If you don%26#039;t talk about it with him it%26#039;s just going to bug you. If your afraid to flat out put him on the spot then why don%26#039;t you play it like this tell him your broke and you can%26#039;t afford to go out any more that you%26#039;ll have to just eat at home. If you make a disaster out of the meal if he%26#039;s hungry then he%26#039;ll take you out to dinner.
Reply:gift giving is always a sensitive issue, but paying for a meal is simple couriessness. talk to him. if you care about him as much as you say, then you should be able to have a serious conversation with him about it. tell him he needs to get in line. Tell him to watch a few lifetime movies and see how many times a guy pays for his date.
Reply:Good thing you just got a masters degree, that way you%26#039;ll be able to support him! Money isn%26#039;t everything, and if you two stick together then it will all be both of yours anyway. If you%26#039;re that serious about this relationship, be direct and ask him. You never know, he just might have good reason.
Reply:It has only been 2 months. Relax a little. Do you need gifts to validate his feelings for you? Think about what he%26#039;d do if he saw this question. He%26#039;d probably be mortified and SPLIT. Sorry to say. If you care about him, wait it out. If it is that important to you... move on. Congratulations on your masters by the way. It is a great accomplishment.
Reply:Oh Honey NO! Let him go he didn%26#039;t even get you a graduation present your masters at that! Lose him this whole paying for dinner everytime....no doesn%26#039;t work for me and shouldn%26#039;t work for you. I think he is using you what happens when you get that GREAT JOB with your new master degree (CONGRAT by the way) and start rolling in all that money..think about it! Lose him ASAP you can find someone else
Reply:I assume he knows you wanted flowers and a card? Because men can%26#039;t read minds.
If you keep paying for dinner, he will accept that. If you want him to pay, then you have to wait until he invites you, and then make sure he understands that %26quot;person who invites does the paying.%26quot; It%26#039;s a rule of etiquette.
Reply:lol me and my gf have kinda the opposite problem..we argue about who%26#039;s paying lol..buy err... budget problem? even though that doesn%26#039;t really solve the what...7 dollar card? hrm..thats a hard one...but good luck with that..sorry i can%26#039;t really give u an answer
Reply:am not materialistic either...but i know how you feel...its just you wanna feel loved and appreciated...!
maybe he%26#039;s too stingy i don%26#039;t know...sry about that!
Reply:YEA, SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT MATERIALISTICE LIKE ME.
THEYRE ARE MORE THINGS TO LIFE THAN THINGS ON OCCASIONS,,,FLOWERS DIE, CARDS ARE THROWN AWAY...WHOA I THIHNK I HAVE ISSUES TO HELP ME TOO LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS
Reply:wat they said
Reply:Well ya%26#039;ll she%26#039;s smart enough to get a Master%26#039;s Degree but not smart enough to dump a loser.
Girl if you were mine, I would be showering you with Gold Diamonds, Flowers, Lingerie and Champangue.
But if I did that I would expect you to dump me for some broke @$$ loser with no job who lives with his mom who can give you EXCITEMENT while I am busting my balls at work to be a Good Provider.
Find someone with the same ambitions as you or suffer the consequences
Reply:Glad your only two months in because I think the guy your with is going to expect you to buy everything. If thats the relationship you want to be in then i hope your going to be making a lot of dough with that master you just recieved. If you want to be in a good relationship then watch out for the loser sign%26#039;s at the start to boot his but. You know what this means and how you feel about it or why else would you be on here asking?! good luck with that....
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I need QUICK help!?! thanks!?
my girlfriend has a fashion show today with a program called pure fashion.. well my question is should I get her some roses for her show or is that more for a pagaent or competition type thing..
our one year anniversary is tomorrow so i wanted to get her flowers regardless but tomrrow will be hard because im picking her up from school and were gonna be out the rest of the day so they would end up dying anyways...
one last option was shes already at the place rehearsing so i can just get the flowers and go to her house and put them in her room or something to come home to if i shouldnt take them to the show.. i need some opinions.. thanks!
I need QUICK help!?! thanks!?
Surprise her with them - take them to the show - she will love it!!!!
Reply:greeting woman with flowers is always a welcomed gesture...if you want to go further than that-hand her the flowers at her fashion show then get rose petals from the florist-(there like 5 bucks a bag) start at the front door of her house and end them in the bedroom on the bed-candles and 1 rose on the bed. Tell her there%26#039;s a petal for each time you felt proud of her today-she will eat that up!! :)
~good luck!!~
Reply:you should put flowers and petals all over her house!
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Reply:the florist can arrange delievery where and when you want just organise it fast
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our one year anniversary is tomorrow so i wanted to get her flowers regardless but tomrrow will be hard because im picking her up from school and were gonna be out the rest of the day so they would end up dying anyways...
one last option was shes already at the place rehearsing so i can just get the flowers and go to her house and put them in her room or something to come home to if i shouldnt take them to the show.. i need some opinions.. thanks!
I need QUICK help!?! thanks!?
Surprise her with them - take them to the show - she will love it!!!!
Reply:greeting woman with flowers is always a welcomed gesture...if you want to go further than that-hand her the flowers at her fashion show then get rose petals from the florist-(there like 5 bucks a bag) start at the front door of her house and end them in the bedroom on the bed-candles and 1 rose on the bed. Tell her there%26#039;s a petal for each time you felt proud of her today-she will eat that up!! :)
~good luck!!~
Reply:you should put flowers and petals all over her house!
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Reply:the florist can arrange delievery where and when you want just organise it fast
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Can you write a poem for me?
I need a short poem for mine and my husband%26#039;s four year anniversary. I%26#039;ve kinda made a paper bouquet of flowers to send to his office and I need a short cute poem to attach to it (talking about the four year traditional gift being paper or flowers - I combined the two). I know its kinda corny but we both love doing stuff like this for each other. Thanks.
Can you write a poem for me?
Flowers and paper
They tell us are good
For four years together
A symbol of love
So they both are
For you enjoy
I made them for you
And did my heart employ
This is really not great--sorry :-(
Reply:Amour
Like a song
My heart is singing
As it melts into your hands
I stare into your eyes
As ribbons in the sand
Twirl and twine
Everything that is fine
Sweet
Remember
Your were unsure
A little boy
Wrapped in grandeur
Heaven
What you think and feel inside
Breath is deeper
Heart is stronger
Remember this day ever longer
Feeling
That made me change
Want something
More than ever before
Just emotion
Don’t break this devotion
As a river keeps flowing
Nothing will break it down
Remind me of the song
My heart was singing
The moment
You became mine
And I
Yours
Some parts could be removed which probably dont apply to you. But this is a poem i wrote a while ago i thought it partly fit your circumstance.
Reply:4 years
this year
3 years last year
5 years next year.
Unless it%26#039;s a leap year.
Reply:Love
You are my light
my love
You are the bright star in my life
my love
you show me the way
Every day
i cannot lie you are my heart
my life
my love
my strength
we will never be apart
you are there for me
as I am for you
God gave us each other
No one can put us asunder!
I love you
I know its weird but its what i would write for my husband.....
Good luck!
Reply:roses are red
violets are blue
i wrote this poem just for you
sorry i%26#039;m not good at poetry
Reply:Try this.........................
Time has turned you in to my best friend,
Oh, how we%26#039;ve gone through thick and thin.
We%26#039;ve deposited time and withdrew mistakes,
We invested in happiness and all the love it takes.
So if I should ever say %26quot;I quit%26quot; don%26#039;t ever let me walk away,
If you should ever change your mind, I%26#039;d die inside.
So whatever happens let%26#039;s make a promise.....
That we will never, ever separate!!!
Reply:Like the scent of the flowers,
A morning full of dew.
Each and every morning,
I realize how much I love you.
Four wonderful years seem to fly by,
And I wouldn%26#039;t change a minute of it.
Because you are now and forever my guy.
Reply:Twinkle, twinkle little star....
I am serious.
visual arts
Can you write a poem for me?
Flowers and paper
They tell us are good
For four years together
A symbol of love
So they both are
For you enjoy
I made them for you
And did my heart employ
This is really not great--sorry :-(
Reply:Amour
Like a song
My heart is singing
As it melts into your hands
I stare into your eyes
As ribbons in the sand
Twirl and twine
Everything that is fine
Sweet
Remember
Your were unsure
A little boy
Wrapped in grandeur
Heaven
What you think and feel inside
Breath is deeper
Heart is stronger
Remember this day ever longer
Feeling
That made me change
Want something
More than ever before
Just emotion
Don’t break this devotion
As a river keeps flowing
Nothing will break it down
Remind me of the song
My heart was singing
The moment
You became mine
And I
Yours
Some parts could be removed which probably dont apply to you. But this is a poem i wrote a while ago i thought it partly fit your circumstance.
Reply:4 years
this year
3 years last year
5 years next year.
Unless it%26#039;s a leap year.
Reply:Love
You are my light
my love
You are the bright star in my life
my love
you show me the way
Every day
i cannot lie you are my heart
my life
my love
my strength
we will never be apart
you are there for me
as I am for you
God gave us each other
No one can put us asunder!
I love you
I know its weird but its what i would write for my husband.....
Good luck!
Reply:roses are red
violets are blue
i wrote this poem just for you
sorry i%26#039;m not good at poetry
Reply:Try this.........................
Time has turned you in to my best friend,
Oh, how we%26#039;ve gone through thick and thin.
We%26#039;ve deposited time and withdrew mistakes,
We invested in happiness and all the love it takes.
So if I should ever say %26quot;I quit%26quot; don%26#039;t ever let me walk away,
If you should ever change your mind, I%26#039;d die inside.
So whatever happens let%26#039;s make a promise.....
That we will never, ever separate!!!
Reply:Like the scent of the flowers,
A morning full of dew.
Each and every morning,
I realize how much I love you.
Four wonderful years seem to fly by,
And I wouldn%26#039;t change a minute of it.
Because you are now and forever my guy.
Reply:Twinkle, twinkle little star....
I am serious.
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Boyfriend issues?
I am madly in love with my boyfriend of two years with whom I live with. Is there anything I can do to bring out the romantic side of him? I know with his ex he was romantic but that relationship burned him pretty badily and since then that side of him is pretty much non-existant. He thinks Valentines Day is a joke (hasnt been celebrated sinse I have been with him). I guess I am just a hopeless romantic at heart but it is nice to get flowers at work or home on a birthday or anniversary, or even a note telling me he loves me and is thinking about me. etc. He tells me he loves me all the time. Maybe I am asking to much, IDK.
Boyfriend issues?
Sit down and explain it to him the way you explained it here. But I wouldn%26#039;t push it too far since he tells you he loves you and treats you good. But explain to him that these little things are important to you and a little effort on his part would go a long way.
Reply:do him Report It
Reply:You%26#039;re not asking too much, he should definitley at very least celebrate valentine%26#039;s day with you. Ask him how he feels about the relationship, no matter how badly burned he was before he should still appreciate you, maybe he doesnt actually love you like he says he does.
Reply:No it is nice to get those little romantic surprises every now and then. My ex wasn%26#039;t very good at that. So one day I sent flowers to myself just because I really wanted them. He was jealous at first when he didn%26#039;t know who sent them, then kind of felt dumb that his girlfriend was buying her own flowers.
Reply:SHOW HiM THAT YOU ARENT TRYiNG TO HURT HiM AND YOU ARE NOT THAT OTHER GIRL AND TRY BEiNG ROMANTIC TO HiM AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL RETURN THE FAVOR BUT DONT PRESS UP ON HiM CUZ HE MiGHT OR PROBABLY CLAM UP SO BASiCALLY ACTiONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS..
Reply:just keep hinting at it. . . do certain special things for/to him!
Reply:We%26#039;ll I have been in many diverse relationships, and this is the way I see it.. You can%26#039;t expect someone to change. Only if they are willing to and truly believe they need to . Which is rare because the majority of people do not honestly believe that there is something wrong with them. If after two years, he has been this way, and you have expected this behavior, then you can%26#039;t expect him to change. He thinks, we%26#039;ll heck I have been this way for two years, and she has been fine with it for this long, and now all of a sudden she is having an issue. (Truth being you have wanted more, but haven%26#039;t properly verbalized it..) The fact that he has baggage from a past relationship that was well over two years ago, that can%26#039;t be used as an excuse now. You deserve to be treated the way you want, but the fact of the matter is you are accepting behavior that you do not want. Don%26#039;t being willing to settle, you deserve the best , as long as you are willing to give the best. Hope this helps.
Reply:well if you tell him he will more than likely do it, how is he going to be able to do something he has no idea of what is going on...he might just not realize hes not doing it...or u should be the one tat sends him stuff and make him feel special and if then he doesnt make a change tell him u need romance to keep going...without it its just going to be a doll relationship...marriage....
Reply:No your not that keep spice in a relationship you are going to have to tell him that those are things you like and he can not hold his pass in front of his eyes that he caint see that you want him to show you his romantic side
Reply:you have been with him for two years, tell him YOU are
not the other girl and to get over it.
Reply:ok,
you wanna kinda help him
cure his broken heart right?
all you need to give him is
T.L.C. (tender loving care)
and some time
he%26#039;ll come around soon
Reply:He was hurt, that%26#039;s all. He hasn%26#039;t got past it and he may think you may do the same...what you need to do is flip the script...you give him some flowers and a card or two, send him an Ecard at work if he has access to a computer, send him an invite to dinner at home and surprise him with his favorite meal, pull out the candles and some nice music...YOU BE THE DESSERT!!! Girl, get some Cool Whip, chocolate syrup, strawberries and come out butt naked...you know the rest....GOOD LUCK!!!
Reply:WOW, hmmm have you tried to talk to him about it in anyway? explain to him the way you feel and that maybe once in a while youll appreciate a lil something...im sure he will understand if it means that much to you the only way you will be able to solve it is really to talk to him. Hope you can do that!!
Reply:mama i know what ur going throu... listen other that he%26#039;s not creative does he have something wrong?? i asked u because if u really think it%26#039;s worth it then let him know how u feel... no complaints.. no fights...
sometimes u have to show him.. thats it%26#039;s ok.. remember us woman tent to be much more mature and creative... show him little by little and then tell him u woulf like to feel appreasiated from time to time to time...
leave a simple rose with a cute note in the table so when he gets home he sees it.. or take nice showers with him... give him bubble baths... massage him with nice sented oils... always get beautiful for him.. no matter if u going to stay in da house... in anniversaries.. girl dont wait for him... take him out... now dont go spending alot of money.. cause he needs to show u as well.. buy take him to da beach at night.. make him fall madly in love where he would have no other way but to please u..
Reply:Romance is the key to a good lasting relationship. If I were you I%26#039;d start with the LOVE NOTES on the table in the morning or if you have cell phones Text him the word I love you and see where that takes you good luck
Reply:Time to bring out the candles. lol. Well if you want to bring out the romantic side of him then you should set up a suprise dinner date while he%26#039;s out. Make his favorite dish and wine, decorate the table with your finest dishes and candles. Play his fave slow jams, and don%26#039;t forget to make the room smell nice, and then slip on the sexiest threads that you have and make yourself look pretty for him. Then when he comes in he will be so happy. Then talk about romantic and humorous things while you guys eat. I%26#039;m sure it will work out perfectly.
Reply:That%26#039;s nice - you%26#039;re not her though - he needs to get over it. Why should you have to put up with that - it%26#039;s not your baggage?!?! OK, so that was my cynical side talking...
Now for how I really feel...
Patience, patience, patience. Wait this one out if you love him. However, if he loves you and knows how much this means to you - he should make some compromises on some level.
Reply:The same exact thing has just happend to me.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years, and lived with him for over a year. Is last girlfriend broke his heart badly.
Hes not romantic at all. But just recently he bought me a dozen of roses. Im pretty sure he did that nice gesture because in order for him to put his heart and soul into our relationship, he needed to see me put my heart in soul in it first. Mainly because he probably doesnt trust girls. Once he saw that im fully in this relationship and how much little gestures mean to me, he bought me a dozen of roses. You just really have to get across to him and let him know how important it is to. And no your not asking for too much, being romantic should be part of any mans role.
Reply:well... if youve been together for 2 years.. you would better hope hes over his ex.. he should see a new great relationship with you. my boyfriend didnt realize how much those kind of things mean to us girls. just let him kno.. its a day for him to show how much he appreciates you.. and for nothing to happen... well says that he doesnt appreciate you.. have a talk with him and try to enlighten him on the womens perspective and ask him to try.. its all about feeling appreciated!
Reply:right!!...
valentines day hopeless???
omg...
right on valentines day dress up sexy like a nurse ...
then tell him oh i forgot you thin its hopeless..
hel miss his chance ...
but u say then ill leave you go this time !!...
give him the best night on valentines day! hel never forget it
tell him then next year it will be more exciting!!
hope it works
Reply:Well i have a bf of 2 months..yes a fresh relationship. When i first met him he was really sweet...but now he%26#039;s not romantic at all...i ask myself %26#039;why%26#039; all the time. whats so hard about being sweet and romantic..and i feel the say way as you i wonder if i%26#039;m asking for too much..but then i know that i%26#039;m not. Try to plan things out...dinner and a movie maybe..? idk but plan something out on your own and maybe he%26#039;ll get the idea of how you want the relationship to be. Or just be straightforward about it and tell him how you feel but for me I wouldn%26#039;t want to %26#039;have%26#039; to tell my man how to act..i would want him to do it himself and if i had to ask..it wouldn%26#039;t be the same anymore. but i love him and i guess dats all that matters..sorry if i didn%26#039;t help..i wish the best of luck to you..!!
Reply:its natural thats how women are. we like to hear feelings be expressed men on the other hand don%26#039;t see it necessary to express their feelings as much like some women get mad when their madd doesn%26#039;t say i love u everyday but men don%26#039;t think like that they figure hey i married u because i love u and they dont always understand us and how we feel so if there%26#039;s something u want him 2 know, tell him most men aren%26#039;t that great when it comes to reading signs from their women. u can be sending a sing to show how u want him to react or whatever but he would have no clue. then if he doesn%26#039;t address u if you%26#039;re hurt or unhappy its not cuz he doesn%26#039;t care. some men can%26#039;t even tell. what%26#039;s on their womens minds. as for u and ur boyfriend tell him how u feel but dont put pressure on him to do this and that every other second he will get mad just let him know that u would appreciate flowers every once in a blue moon just for no reason at all. but DONT PRESSUE HIM! ur not asking for 2 much this just shows that ur a normal woman with normal needs. just take it easy talk with him but dont pressure him remember that
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Boyfriend issues?
Sit down and explain it to him the way you explained it here. But I wouldn%26#039;t push it too far since he tells you he loves you and treats you good. But explain to him that these little things are important to you and a little effort on his part would go a long way.
Reply:do him Report It
Reply:You%26#039;re not asking too much, he should definitley at very least celebrate valentine%26#039;s day with you. Ask him how he feels about the relationship, no matter how badly burned he was before he should still appreciate you, maybe he doesnt actually love you like he says he does.
Reply:No it is nice to get those little romantic surprises every now and then. My ex wasn%26#039;t very good at that. So one day I sent flowers to myself just because I really wanted them. He was jealous at first when he didn%26#039;t know who sent them, then kind of felt dumb that his girlfriend was buying her own flowers.
Reply:SHOW HiM THAT YOU ARENT TRYiNG TO HURT HiM AND YOU ARE NOT THAT OTHER GIRL AND TRY BEiNG ROMANTIC TO HiM AND HOPEFULLY HE WILL RETURN THE FAVOR BUT DONT PRESS UP ON HiM CUZ HE MiGHT OR PROBABLY CLAM UP SO BASiCALLY ACTiONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS..
Reply:just keep hinting at it. . . do certain special things for/to him!
Reply:We%26#039;ll I have been in many diverse relationships, and this is the way I see it.. You can%26#039;t expect someone to change. Only if they are willing to and truly believe they need to . Which is rare because the majority of people do not honestly believe that there is something wrong with them. If after two years, he has been this way, and you have expected this behavior, then you can%26#039;t expect him to change. He thinks, we%26#039;ll heck I have been this way for two years, and she has been fine with it for this long, and now all of a sudden she is having an issue. (Truth being you have wanted more, but haven%26#039;t properly verbalized it..) The fact that he has baggage from a past relationship that was well over two years ago, that can%26#039;t be used as an excuse now. You deserve to be treated the way you want, but the fact of the matter is you are accepting behavior that you do not want. Don%26#039;t being willing to settle, you deserve the best , as long as you are willing to give the best. Hope this helps.
Reply:well if you tell him he will more than likely do it, how is he going to be able to do something he has no idea of what is going on...he might just not realize hes not doing it...or u should be the one tat sends him stuff and make him feel special and if then he doesnt make a change tell him u need romance to keep going...without it its just going to be a doll relationship...marriage....
Reply:No your not that keep spice in a relationship you are going to have to tell him that those are things you like and he can not hold his pass in front of his eyes that he caint see that you want him to show you his romantic side
Reply:you have been with him for two years, tell him YOU are
not the other girl and to get over it.
Reply:ok,
you wanna kinda help him
cure his broken heart right?
all you need to give him is
T.L.C. (tender loving care)
and some time
he%26#039;ll come around soon
Reply:He was hurt, that%26#039;s all. He hasn%26#039;t got past it and he may think you may do the same...what you need to do is flip the script...you give him some flowers and a card or two, send him an Ecard at work if he has access to a computer, send him an invite to dinner at home and surprise him with his favorite meal, pull out the candles and some nice music...YOU BE THE DESSERT!!! Girl, get some Cool Whip, chocolate syrup, strawberries and come out butt naked...you know the rest....GOOD LUCK!!!
Reply:WOW, hmmm have you tried to talk to him about it in anyway? explain to him the way you feel and that maybe once in a while youll appreciate a lil something...im sure he will understand if it means that much to you the only way you will be able to solve it is really to talk to him. Hope you can do that!!
Reply:mama i know what ur going throu... listen other that he%26#039;s not creative does he have something wrong?? i asked u because if u really think it%26#039;s worth it then let him know how u feel... no complaints.. no fights...
sometimes u have to show him.. thats it%26#039;s ok.. remember us woman tent to be much more mature and creative... show him little by little and then tell him u woulf like to feel appreasiated from time to time to time...
leave a simple rose with a cute note in the table so when he gets home he sees it.. or take nice showers with him... give him bubble baths... massage him with nice sented oils... always get beautiful for him.. no matter if u going to stay in da house... in anniversaries.. girl dont wait for him... take him out... now dont go spending alot of money.. cause he needs to show u as well.. buy take him to da beach at night.. make him fall madly in love where he would have no other way but to please u..
Reply:Romance is the key to a good lasting relationship. If I were you I%26#039;d start with the LOVE NOTES on the table in the morning or if you have cell phones Text him the word I love you and see where that takes you good luck
Reply:Time to bring out the candles. lol. Well if you want to bring out the romantic side of him then you should set up a suprise dinner date while he%26#039;s out. Make his favorite dish and wine, decorate the table with your finest dishes and candles. Play his fave slow jams, and don%26#039;t forget to make the room smell nice, and then slip on the sexiest threads that you have and make yourself look pretty for him. Then when he comes in he will be so happy. Then talk about romantic and humorous things while you guys eat. I%26#039;m sure it will work out perfectly.
Reply:That%26#039;s nice - you%26#039;re not her though - he needs to get over it. Why should you have to put up with that - it%26#039;s not your baggage?!?! OK, so that was my cynical side talking...
Now for how I really feel...
Patience, patience, patience. Wait this one out if you love him. However, if he loves you and knows how much this means to you - he should make some compromises on some level.
Reply:The same exact thing has just happend to me.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years, and lived with him for over a year. Is last girlfriend broke his heart badly.
Hes not romantic at all. But just recently he bought me a dozen of roses. Im pretty sure he did that nice gesture because in order for him to put his heart and soul into our relationship, he needed to see me put my heart in soul in it first. Mainly because he probably doesnt trust girls. Once he saw that im fully in this relationship and how much little gestures mean to me, he bought me a dozen of roses. You just really have to get across to him and let him know how important it is to. And no your not asking for too much, being romantic should be part of any mans role.
Reply:well... if youve been together for 2 years.. you would better hope hes over his ex.. he should see a new great relationship with you. my boyfriend didnt realize how much those kind of things mean to us girls. just let him kno.. its a day for him to show how much he appreciates you.. and for nothing to happen... well says that he doesnt appreciate you.. have a talk with him and try to enlighten him on the womens perspective and ask him to try.. its all about feeling appreciated!
Reply:right!!...
valentines day hopeless???
omg...
right on valentines day dress up sexy like a nurse ...
then tell him oh i forgot you thin its hopeless..
hel miss his chance ...
but u say then ill leave you go this time !!...
give him the best night on valentines day! hel never forget it
tell him then next year it will be more exciting!!
hope it works
Reply:Well i have a bf of 2 months..yes a fresh relationship. When i first met him he was really sweet...but now he%26#039;s not romantic at all...i ask myself %26#039;why%26#039; all the time. whats so hard about being sweet and romantic..and i feel the say way as you i wonder if i%26#039;m asking for too much..but then i know that i%26#039;m not. Try to plan things out...dinner and a movie maybe..? idk but plan something out on your own and maybe he%26#039;ll get the idea of how you want the relationship to be. Or just be straightforward about it and tell him how you feel but for me I wouldn%26#039;t want to %26#039;have%26#039; to tell my man how to act..i would want him to do it himself and if i had to ask..it wouldn%26#039;t be the same anymore. but i love him and i guess dats all that matters..sorry if i didn%26#039;t help..i wish the best of luck to you..!!
Reply:its natural thats how women are. we like to hear feelings be expressed men on the other hand don%26#039;t see it necessary to express their feelings as much like some women get mad when their madd doesn%26#039;t say i love u everyday but men don%26#039;t think like that they figure hey i married u because i love u and they dont always understand us and how we feel so if there%26#039;s something u want him 2 know, tell him most men aren%26#039;t that great when it comes to reading signs from their women. u can be sending a sing to show how u want him to react or whatever but he would have no clue. then if he doesn%26#039;t address u if you%26#039;re hurt or unhappy its not cuz he doesn%26#039;t care. some men can%26#039;t even tell. what%26#039;s on their womens minds. as for u and ur boyfriend tell him how u feel but dont put pressure on him to do this and that every other second he will get mad just let him know that u would appreciate flowers every once in a blue moon just for no reason at all. but DONT PRESSUE HIM! ur not asking for 2 much this just shows that ur a normal woman with normal needs. just take it easy talk with him but dont pressure him remember that
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Flower that have meaning for each generation?
My daughter was at a 50th anniversary and each generation gave the bride and groom a different flower and color. I am wondering if anyone knows the flower and colors so I can use it at a 45th anniversary.
Flower that have meaning for each generation?
there is no specific special flower for 45th anneversery trust me i check over the web. if u want nice buetiful flower that does not look like from the street and steel is cheap and gorgoes are found in the site i given to u below. remember no matter what flower or gift tothat special someone it the thought thta counts. also remember no gift in the world u give is more special than him or her having u heart and soul.
http://www.beyondblossoms.com/
theysay that sappire is the passon and gift for a 45th annirversary. the site below that i gave u gives u nice chioces of saphire jeulory for the special someone.
http://www.eden4flowers.co.uk/about/anni...
books authors
Flower that have meaning for each generation?
there is no specific special flower for 45th anneversery trust me i check over the web. if u want nice buetiful flower that does not look like from the street and steel is cheap and gorgoes are found in the site i given to u below. remember no matter what flower or gift tothat special someone it the thought thta counts. also remember no gift in the world u give is more special than him or her having u heart and soul.
http://www.beyondblossoms.com/
theysay that sappire is the passon and gift for a 45th annirversary. the site below that i gave u gives u nice chioces of saphire jeulory for the special someone.
http://www.eden4flowers.co.uk/about/anni...
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Another question for the guys....?
Do guys really like getting flowers from their gf/wife on anniversaries?
Another question for the guys....?
i would i never have but that would be sweet but i depends on the guy some wont admit that they like them even if the do ya know to manly
Reply:NO!!!!!
Reply:Most guys would rather have you make love to them or wear something sexy or make sex more of a game and less like a JOB!
Reply:Unless he is a person that really likes that kind of gift, he won%26#039;t notice it
Reply:No. It%26#039;s a nice gesture and all, but it%26#039;s really a waste.
Reply:no, personally I don%26#039;t.
Unless it makes her happy, then I%26#039;m all for it.
Bring on the Bouquet!
Reply:2 minutes and no response
Reply:I personally feel that it is sexy and attractive when a woman gives a man flowers...try just one stem of a rose any summer color..place in on their pillow, their windshield of their car best one of all a surprise delivery to their job..
Oh rest assure he is going to squirm and turn a little red in the face lol, (becuz the boys r watching) a bit..but inside his heart %26amp; soul he will be yearning to be with you right there and than.
Lastly, if you feel that he is not going to be keen on receiving flowers than arrange for a sitter (if u have kids) and adorn your bedoir with rose petals.. leading from the bed to your bathroom..romantic scented candles and wonderful bubble bath.
P.S., the shower works the same it all depends what u and him would like to do first. Enjoy and happy anniversary!!
Reply:Yes and no. It%26#039;s nice but there are many other things I would prefer. Flowers are a bit lazy for both men and women. It says you didn%26#039;t put much thought into what they would like or that you don%26#039;t know what they like. If they really likes flowers then it%26#039;s perfect but is it what they really like?
Reply:flowers? oh no.
Reply:Sure. It%26#039;s sweet. But if he%26#039;s been hinting he%26#039;d like a new masonry bit for his drill, you should get him that instead.
Reply:flowers no....like somethin that will be usefull to them or something that they will like
Reply:they are mean giving flowers to impressed the girls
Reply:Most would rather have tulips on their organ than roses on their piano...
Reply:i am happy with what ever my wife gets me no matter what it is because i love her for who she is and not what she gets me
Reply:yes y not .... n please no posies loll
OK i would not mined its the thought that counts .. it would b odd but nice .........
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Another question for the guys....?
i would i never have but that would be sweet but i depends on the guy some wont admit that they like them even if the do ya know to manly
Reply:NO!!!!!
Reply:Most guys would rather have you make love to them or wear something sexy or make sex more of a game and less like a JOB!
Reply:Unless he is a person that really likes that kind of gift, he won%26#039;t notice it
Reply:No. It%26#039;s a nice gesture and all, but it%26#039;s really a waste.
Reply:no, personally I don%26#039;t.
Unless it makes her happy, then I%26#039;m all for it.
Bring on the Bouquet!
Reply:2 minutes and no response
Reply:I personally feel that it is sexy and attractive when a woman gives a man flowers...try just one stem of a rose any summer color..place in on their pillow, their windshield of their car best one of all a surprise delivery to their job..
Oh rest assure he is going to squirm and turn a little red in the face lol, (becuz the boys r watching) a bit..but inside his heart %26amp; soul he will be yearning to be with you right there and than.
Lastly, if you feel that he is not going to be keen on receiving flowers than arrange for a sitter (if u have kids) and adorn your bedoir with rose petals.. leading from the bed to your bathroom..romantic scented candles and wonderful bubble bath.
P.S., the shower works the same it all depends what u and him would like to do first. Enjoy and happy anniversary!!
Reply:Yes and no. It%26#039;s nice but there are many other things I would prefer. Flowers are a bit lazy for both men and women. It says you didn%26#039;t put much thought into what they would like or that you don%26#039;t know what they like. If they really likes flowers then it%26#039;s perfect but is it what they really like?
Reply:flowers? oh no.
Reply:Sure. It%26#039;s sweet. But if he%26#039;s been hinting he%26#039;d like a new masonry bit for his drill, you should get him that instead.
Reply:flowers no....like somethin that will be usefull to them or something that they will like
Reply:they are mean giving flowers to impressed the girls
Reply:Most would rather have tulips on their organ than roses on their piano...
Reply:i am happy with what ever my wife gets me no matter what it is because i love her for who she is and not what she gets me
Reply:yes y not .... n please no posies loll
OK i would not mined its the thought that counts .. it would b odd but nice .........
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Add one more verse for me?
I%26#039;m trying to write a very short, funny but sweet poem for mine and my husband%26#039;s anniversary. So far, I%26#039;ve got:
Fruit and flowers are tradition
For Four years or marriage
In good condition.
I need one or two more verses to end it. Can you help me. I just really want to say that I love him and that kind of stuff. Thanks for your help.
Add one more verse for me?
Fruits and flowers are tradition.
For four years goes our marriage.
And sits in good condition.
I am glad to have found my spring.
A bloom ready to open...
Sits for love and passion sweet.
For however long that wait does go.
They sit in patient seat.
The times moved slow,
a long hard wait.
Like an orchid I am fragile.
But then, the soft wind gives a blow.
That warm summer spring,
had finally knocked me open.
And now a bloomed flower I shine.
Not ready to close...
For now the spring is mine.
Fruits and flowers are tradition.
For four years goes our marriage.
And sits in good condition.
I am glad to have found my spring.
(Sorry...)
(I wanted to slightly change your first verse.)
(If it bothers you, tell me)
(Then I can try to add on how you want me to.)
(I like poetry.)
(I am here to help.)
Reply:through the joy and the pain
with you I both enjoy
the sunshine and the rain
Hope you%26#039;ll add it. :-)
Reply:I like what the above did, but not sure it sounds like you! LOL!
Reply:Fruit and flowers are tradition
For four years of marriage
In good condition.
title:
How Do I Show How My Love Goes?
How quickly do the slow years go?
My love, only you and I know.
But I can give you more than fruits
or flowers
or tradition.
I pledge myself again
to you
and here are my conditions.
Take care, my sweet, with my soft heart.
It has a precious measure.
And I, with you, will take care too,
because your heart%26#039;s a treasure.
What fond delights will we ignite
some four more years from here?
I do not know.
Neither do you.
But the dream is to dream...cause I%26#039;m here!
I love you.
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Fruit and flowers are tradition
For Four years or marriage
In good condition.
I need one or two more verses to end it. Can you help me. I just really want to say that I love him and that kind of stuff. Thanks for your help.
Add one more verse for me?
Fruits and flowers are tradition.
For four years goes our marriage.
And sits in good condition.
I am glad to have found my spring.
A bloom ready to open...
Sits for love and passion sweet.
For however long that wait does go.
They sit in patient seat.
The times moved slow,
a long hard wait.
Like an orchid I am fragile.
But then, the soft wind gives a blow.
That warm summer spring,
had finally knocked me open.
And now a bloomed flower I shine.
Not ready to close...
For now the spring is mine.
Fruits and flowers are tradition.
For four years goes our marriage.
And sits in good condition.
I am glad to have found my spring.
(Sorry...)
(I wanted to slightly change your first verse.)
(If it bothers you, tell me)
(Then I can try to add on how you want me to.)
(I like poetry.)
(I am here to help.)
Reply:through the joy and the pain
with you I both enjoy
the sunshine and the rain
Hope you%26#039;ll add it. :-)
Reply:I like what the above did, but not sure it sounds like you! LOL!
Reply:Fruit and flowers are tradition
For four years of marriage
In good condition.
title:
How Do I Show How My Love Goes?
How quickly do the slow years go?
My love, only you and I know.
But I can give you more than fruits
or flowers
or tradition.
I pledge myself again
to you
and here are my conditions.
Take care, my sweet, with my soft heart.
It has a precious measure.
And I, with you, will take care too,
because your heart%26#039;s a treasure.
What fond delights will we ignite
some four more years from here?
I do not know.
Neither do you.
But the dream is to dream...cause I%26#039;m here!
I love you.
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Tinks for you funny or not?
A sad-faced tink walked into a flower shop early one morning.
The clerk was ready to take her order for a funeral piece, based on the look on tinks%26#039;s face, but soon realized his assumption was wrong as tink asked for a basket of flowers to be sent to her husband for their anniversary.
%26quot;And what day will that be?%26quot; the clerk asked.
Glumly Tinks replied, %26quot;Yesterday.%26quot;
Tinks for you funny or not?
What!?? Have you been on the pop again boy!
I know I`ve just finished the longest shift ever but, all the drunks in A+E last night were funnier!! ;) X
I`m gonna come to you`re A+E department and SLAP you!
10/10* from a very tired Tink xx
P.S I hope you`re head hurts P.C.!! ;) xxxxxxx
Reply:Just kidding babe as you know ;)
Tink xxxxx Report It
Reply:hahaha aww
Reply:ha ha
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The clerk was ready to take her order for a funeral piece, based on the look on tinks%26#039;s face, but soon realized his assumption was wrong as tink asked for a basket of flowers to be sent to her husband for their anniversary.
%26quot;And what day will that be?%26quot; the clerk asked.
Glumly Tinks replied, %26quot;Yesterday.%26quot;
Tinks for you funny or not?
What!?? Have you been on the pop again boy!
I know I`ve just finished the longest shift ever but, all the drunks in A+E last night were funnier!! ;) X
I`m gonna come to you`re A+E department and SLAP you!
10/10* from a very tired Tink xx
P.S I hope you`re head hurts P.C.!! ;) xxxxxxx
Reply:Just kidding babe as you know ;)
Tink xxxxx Report It
Reply:hahaha aww
Reply:ha ha
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Orange Blossoms?
I want to get orange blossoms for the table for our first anniversary since that and the pansy are the flowers for the first year. When do they typically bloom and are they hard to find outside of Flordia? Would most flowers shops have access to and be able to create some kind of arrangement with them? I don%26#039;t want silk, I%26#039;d really like to have real ones.
Thanks!
Orange Blossoms?
I guess the only way to really find out IS to contact a florist. Contact several.
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Thanks!
Orange Blossoms?
I guess the only way to really find out IS to contact a florist. Contact several.
computer
What is she thinking?
so my girlfriend broke up with me 10 weeks ago. for 4 weeks after, she would call me for an hour or two a night, and send me alot of sms%26#039;s a day. said she was feeling closer to me. then she hooked up with a random guy, really regretted it afterwards, and told her parents what had happened (that would have been hard for her, she grew up in a really religious family). since then i%26#039;ve cut the contact, as i still love her dearly, and need to start moving on, since she is not good for me at the moment. we were both each others firsts, and she means the world to me still.
now...in the last two weeks, she has a new boyfriend. but she still has the flowers i gave her on our 6 month anniversary in her room (long dead, but her sister said she refused to throw them out), and a mutual friend of ours said she talks about me alot when they hang out together.
does all that mean anything? has she completely moved on? is there a chance still? its all pretty confusing....
What is she thinking?
Wow, I understand why you are so cunfused. The same thing happened to me, except it was my ex playing the role of your ex......and my ex is a guy. Does that make sense? Anyway, duh!!!! She still likes you, she%26#039;ll deny it, but it%26#039;s so obvious! I think she either was afriad that you two were going to fast, like you said, religious family........or she had a moment when she didn%26#039;t feel the flame of love and so in that moment she broke up with you. Now, she realizes that she still likes you, and a lot. She didn%26#039;t want to feel that because she knows that she made a mistake in breaking it off with you, so she hooks up with someone else trying to feel the same amount of love she felt for you, apparently that isn%26#039;t working out for her and she can%26#039;t help talking about you non-stop because she thinks about you non-stop. It%26#039;s all very complicated, but my point is she screwed up, and still likes you. So just act like a good friend, hangout, talk, etc....and she%26#039;ll eventually break up with the new guy and then you%26#039;ll have your chance to take her back. Ok? Ok. Good luck.
Reply:if a gal really loved a guy she wouldnt date someone else thats the rule. Move on for the better N she might kept it for memories the flowers.
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now...in the last two weeks, she has a new boyfriend. but she still has the flowers i gave her on our 6 month anniversary in her room (long dead, but her sister said she refused to throw them out), and a mutual friend of ours said she talks about me alot when they hang out together.
does all that mean anything? has she completely moved on? is there a chance still? its all pretty confusing....
What is she thinking?
Wow, I understand why you are so cunfused. The same thing happened to me, except it was my ex playing the role of your ex......and my ex is a guy. Does that make sense? Anyway, duh!!!! She still likes you, she%26#039;ll deny it, but it%26#039;s so obvious! I think she either was afriad that you two were going to fast, like you said, religious family........or she had a moment when she didn%26#039;t feel the flame of love and so in that moment she broke up with you. Now, she realizes that she still likes you, and a lot. She didn%26#039;t want to feel that because she knows that she made a mistake in breaking it off with you, so she hooks up with someone else trying to feel the same amount of love she felt for you, apparently that isn%26#039;t working out for her and she can%26#039;t help talking about you non-stop because she thinks about you non-stop. It%26#039;s all very complicated, but my point is she screwed up, and still likes you. So just act like a good friend, hangout, talk, etc....and she%26#039;ll eventually break up with the new guy and then you%26#039;ll have your chance to take her back. Ok? Ok. Good luck.
Reply:if a gal really loved a guy she wouldnt date someone else thats the rule. Move on for the better N she might kept it for memories the flowers.
White Teeth
New bride questions?
Married to the woman of my dreams for 6 months now, and a problem is surfacing that I really dont like. I know communication is the answer, but my question is how. My wife constantly compares me to her brother in law. Not outright, but through subtle hints. I am a very open, loving and caring man. I bring flowers home every few days. I celebrate our anniversary monthly. We take small vacations monthly. I constantly tell her how beautiful she is (and she is!!!) I love shopping with her for her and her mom and my kids. Not so much for me, but occationally. I feel like I am doing the best that I can but am never quite good enough. It is different than when we were dating, not sure what is the deal. Counseling, communication, all that is good, just looking for some helpful advice in this stressful first year of marriage. I am commited to be the best husband God wants me to be, it is just hard to never feel quite good enough....
New bride questions?
Here is a formula my husband and I use
I feel _____
when you _____
because ______
There is no other way to address this problem except with communication. Ask her what she likes about her brother in law, that might be a start.
Reply:Maybe shes just a selfish person that will never be happy.
Reply:When the two of you go out alone ask her if she is happy with you. Gradually get to letting her know that she is comparing you to him %26amp; let her know that you don%26#039;t like it. Ask her if she knows that she is doing it. Communication is one of the ways for you %26amp; your wife to make the relationship last. You must also have trust, honesty, devotion %26amp; lots of love. Lots of luck!!
Reply:Gosh you are the PERFECT HUSBAND! She is so lucky to have you.. Such a good man! Well you seemed to have answered your own question - COMMUNICATION. Honestly, I would subtlely tell her that you really do not appreciate the comments and comparisons she makes about her brother-in-law. Tell her it bothers you... She won%26#039;t know unless u tell her and honestly, tell her everything you said right here in this question you just asked. She may not know she%26#039;s comparing... But all in all, I%26#039;d tell her exactly how you feel... Good luck
Reply:What exactly does she feel is %26quot;not good enough%26quot;? Not all women look for someone to bring them flowers every few days. What is SHE looking for? Do you know? It%26#039;s not that you%26#039;re doing anything wrong, but perhaps you%26#039;re speaking a different %26quot;language%26quot;. You don%26#039;t give a lot of details in your question, so I%26#039;m not sure what the answer would be. Different people appreciate different things. My husband and I are in the first year of our marriage, and it%26#039;s not stressful at all; we are really enjoying ourselves. I don%26#039;t think the first year must necessarily be hard. Try to approach her with an open mind, and listen to what she has to say. Ask her what says %26quot;love%26quot; to her; is it flowers? compliments? or something else entirely? Just talk to her.
Reply:I%26#039;m going to bet that your brother in law is quite the mans man. He would never think of going shopping and flowers are out of the question.
There is some truth when you hear people say that %26quot;Women want bad boys%26quot;.
There are two types of men in the world, the dating kind and the marrying kind.
Your brother-in-law is a dater and you are a husband. It really comes down to communication.
I think that your wife is trying to communicate to you and you are not listening. The subtle hints that she is making should be telling you to back off a bit and stop being so whipped. Start acting like a dating man and set some boundaries. Right now you are letting her walk all over you and she might not want to be in control.
Men are taught to be the dominant partners in the relationship and woman were taught ot be the submissive partners. Although that has changed over the last few decades, there is a fine line that you have to find.
Be stronger with her and she may stop comparing you to your brother-in-law.
Reply:honey just tell her what she%26#039;s doing ... and if this helps any... every first yr. is stressful... wait until you reach the 10yr. mark. then compare to the first one... good luck ..
Reply:your are a good husband .the one who needs advice is your wife.
Reply:Just be yourself, nothing more, nothing less. Be the guy she dated. It sounds like youre trying to be someone youre not. Just because you now have a ring on doesnt mean youre not the same guy before the ring. Its understandable that you want to step it up a notch since youve gotten married but theres such a thing as overdoing it which youre probably doing. Youre unintentionally smothering her so back it off a bit and see what happens. Dont worry youre not alone, evey guy newly married does it and learns the same lesson. So just be the guy before the ring,the one she first fell in love with and youll be alright. Good luck
Reply:I think you need to ask her if she is happy with you or not. Is she jealous of her sister? Something is not right. I would fall over if my boyfriend did all of that for me. You are treating her like a queen, and she should appreciate it more. Maybe you didn%26#039;t do all of that before, and she%26#039;s not used to it. Maybe she has issues with herself. I would also tell her that she was happy with you before the marriage and you don%26#039;t like being compared to the brother-in-law. How would she feel if the shoes were on the other foot? You can ask her that, but don%26#039;t do it, you%26#039;l only dig yourself a bigger hole.
Reply:Just let her know how you feel. Talk to her just like you just explained it to us. Make sure you concentrate on you so she doesn%26#039;t feel like she has to be defensive. I am curious about how long were you guys together before getting married.
Reply:i think you just answered your own question. you%26#039;re right, communication is the key. and if it means going to counseling, then by all means go. good luck!
Reply:Mistake number 1.
You married her...now she doesn%26#039;t have to work for anything....
Don%26#039;t worry though, marriage is sacred.....
LOL!
Reply:I think your wife may be having a little %26quot;buyers remorse%26quot;. Not that she regrets marrying you, but the what if factor has probably popped into her head. The best bet is to say straight out. %26quot;It really bothers me when you compare me to ______. I really love you and would like to know if there is something in particular I can do or stop doing.%26quot;
The other answer is she likes the attention she is getting from you and hopes to get you to one up yourself by comparing you to her brother in law. Either way...TALK.
Reply:Well, you%26#039;re married now. She got you. She doesn%26#039;t have to work anymore. It%26#039;ll get worse before it gets better. Good luck.
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Here is a formula my husband and I use
I feel _____
when you _____
because ______
There is no other way to address this problem except with communication. Ask her what she likes about her brother in law, that might be a start.
Reply:Maybe shes just a selfish person that will never be happy.
Reply:When the two of you go out alone ask her if she is happy with you. Gradually get to letting her know that she is comparing you to him %26amp; let her know that you don%26#039;t like it. Ask her if she knows that she is doing it. Communication is one of the ways for you %26amp; your wife to make the relationship last. You must also have trust, honesty, devotion %26amp; lots of love. Lots of luck!!
Reply:Gosh you are the PERFECT HUSBAND! She is so lucky to have you.. Such a good man! Well you seemed to have answered your own question - COMMUNICATION. Honestly, I would subtlely tell her that you really do not appreciate the comments and comparisons she makes about her brother-in-law. Tell her it bothers you... She won%26#039;t know unless u tell her and honestly, tell her everything you said right here in this question you just asked. She may not know she%26#039;s comparing... But all in all, I%26#039;d tell her exactly how you feel... Good luck
Reply:What exactly does she feel is %26quot;not good enough%26quot;? Not all women look for someone to bring them flowers every few days. What is SHE looking for? Do you know? It%26#039;s not that you%26#039;re doing anything wrong, but perhaps you%26#039;re speaking a different %26quot;language%26quot;. You don%26#039;t give a lot of details in your question, so I%26#039;m not sure what the answer would be. Different people appreciate different things. My husband and I are in the first year of our marriage, and it%26#039;s not stressful at all; we are really enjoying ourselves. I don%26#039;t think the first year must necessarily be hard. Try to approach her with an open mind, and listen to what she has to say. Ask her what says %26quot;love%26quot; to her; is it flowers? compliments? or something else entirely? Just talk to her.
Reply:I%26#039;m going to bet that your brother in law is quite the mans man. He would never think of going shopping and flowers are out of the question.
There is some truth when you hear people say that %26quot;Women want bad boys%26quot;.
There are two types of men in the world, the dating kind and the marrying kind.
Your brother-in-law is a dater and you are a husband. It really comes down to communication.
I think that your wife is trying to communicate to you and you are not listening. The subtle hints that she is making should be telling you to back off a bit and stop being so whipped. Start acting like a dating man and set some boundaries. Right now you are letting her walk all over you and she might not want to be in control.
Men are taught to be the dominant partners in the relationship and woman were taught ot be the submissive partners. Although that has changed over the last few decades, there is a fine line that you have to find.
Be stronger with her and she may stop comparing you to your brother-in-law.
Reply:honey just tell her what she%26#039;s doing ... and if this helps any... every first yr. is stressful... wait until you reach the 10yr. mark. then compare to the first one... good luck ..
Reply:your are a good husband .the one who needs advice is your wife.
Reply:Just be yourself, nothing more, nothing less. Be the guy she dated. It sounds like youre trying to be someone youre not. Just because you now have a ring on doesnt mean youre not the same guy before the ring. Its understandable that you want to step it up a notch since youve gotten married but theres such a thing as overdoing it which youre probably doing. Youre unintentionally smothering her so back it off a bit and see what happens. Dont worry youre not alone, evey guy newly married does it and learns the same lesson. So just be the guy before the ring,the one she first fell in love with and youll be alright. Good luck
Reply:I think you need to ask her if she is happy with you or not. Is she jealous of her sister? Something is not right. I would fall over if my boyfriend did all of that for me. You are treating her like a queen, and she should appreciate it more. Maybe you didn%26#039;t do all of that before, and she%26#039;s not used to it. Maybe she has issues with herself. I would also tell her that she was happy with you before the marriage and you don%26#039;t like being compared to the brother-in-law. How would she feel if the shoes were on the other foot? You can ask her that, but don%26#039;t do it, you%26#039;l only dig yourself a bigger hole.
Reply:Just let her know how you feel. Talk to her just like you just explained it to us. Make sure you concentrate on you so she doesn%26#039;t feel like she has to be defensive. I am curious about how long were you guys together before getting married.
Reply:i think you just answered your own question. you%26#039;re right, communication is the key. and if it means going to counseling, then by all means go. good luck!
Reply:Mistake number 1.
You married her...now she doesn%26#039;t have to work for anything....
Don%26#039;t worry though, marriage is sacred.....
LOL!
Reply:I think your wife may be having a little %26quot;buyers remorse%26quot;. Not that she regrets marrying you, but the what if factor has probably popped into her head. The best bet is to say straight out. %26quot;It really bothers me when you compare me to ______. I really love you and would like to know if there is something in particular I can do or stop doing.%26quot;
The other answer is she likes the attention she is getting from you and hopes to get you to one up yourself by comparing you to her brother in law. Either way...TALK.
Reply:Well, you%26#039;re married now. She got you. She doesn%26#039;t have to work anymore. It%26#039;ll get worse before it gets better. Good luck.
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Help i told my best friend i like him?
my best friend and i pretty much have the best of times all the time, he%26#039;s a great person, we go to dinner all the time, he buys me flowers on special occasions, we even celebrate our anniversary of the day we met each other. he%26#039;s really religious, shy, wouldn%26#039;t ever pursue a female because of him being shy. he always makes suggestions of him liking me, but isn%26#039;t completely clear about them. I told him i liked him and his answer was %26quot;i would never tell you if i liked you because i%26#039;m not like that.%26quot; the thing is, he acts the same, he treats me the same (which is great), talks to me the same and everything. but my question is, isn%26#039;t a guy supposed to act different, i mean if he doesn%26#039;t like me back wouldn%26#039;t he be mean and try to push me away, or at least tell me he doesn%26#039;t like me back? what should I do from here? how should i get the answer out of him without pushing too hard? do you think he does have feelings for me?
Help i told my best friend i like him?
From What you have mentioned and his comment _%26quot;i would never tell you if i liked you because i%26#039;m not like that.%26quot; _ I think he has feelings for you. Well you should know that stereo typing GUYS will not work in every single occasion. I can guess that he is very young or very inexperienced. Thats why he does not ask you out. I think you should play the dominant. Go and ask him out but only if you are attracted to him. If not then forget about him and stop hanging out with him. He sounds like an emotional guy. He might start hurting himself. Look You need to do something if he is so shy that he can not ask you out and I am sure that it is the case. Just ask him out make out with him and go to bed with him or whatever you wish. If not then just stop seeing him.
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Reply:why push it, you already do the things that couples do, even thou you are best friends, and you told him how you felt, and he didn%26#039;t reply back. yes most guys will treat you different. but some guys don%26#039;t. just be lucky that you two are still best friends and keep it that way. its better than nothing. good luck.
Reply:if you are sure about his sexuality that he is straight then i think he might like. i don`t know if there is any religion that forbids people from dating so that shouldn`t really be his problem. it could be that he he lacks experience in dating which is the reason he would much rather be with you as a Friend than more. i suggest you tell he that you did not quite understand his responce so u would appreciate it if he could explain what he meant. it is the only way to know otherwise you would drive urself crazy trying to figure it out.
Reply:didn%26#039;t you just ask this ?? he wants to be friends period that%26#039;s all !! you have asked this four times now ..not getting the answers you want???
Reply:Ask him what is he thinking. If he is your best friend he won%26#039;t be afraid to tell you.
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Help i told my best friend i like him?
From What you have mentioned and his comment _%26quot;i would never tell you if i liked you because i%26#039;m not like that.%26quot; _ I think he has feelings for you. Well you should know that stereo typing GUYS will not work in every single occasion. I can guess that he is very young or very inexperienced. Thats why he does not ask you out. I think you should play the dominant. Go and ask him out but only if you are attracted to him. If not then forget about him and stop hanging out with him. He sounds like an emotional guy. He might start hurting himself. Look You need to do something if he is so shy that he can not ask you out and I am sure that it is the case. Just ask him out make out with him and go to bed with him or whatever you wish. If not then just stop seeing him.
Sorry for the language
Reply:why push it, you already do the things that couples do, even thou you are best friends, and you told him how you felt, and he didn%26#039;t reply back. yes most guys will treat you different. but some guys don%26#039;t. just be lucky that you two are still best friends and keep it that way. its better than nothing. good luck.
Reply:if you are sure about his sexuality that he is straight then i think he might like. i don`t know if there is any religion that forbids people from dating so that shouldn`t really be his problem. it could be that he he lacks experience in dating which is the reason he would much rather be with you as a Friend than more. i suggest you tell he that you did not quite understand his responce so u would appreciate it if he could explain what he meant. it is the only way to know otherwise you would drive urself crazy trying to figure it out.
Reply:didn%26#039;t you just ask this ?? he wants to be friends period that%26#039;s all !! you have asked this four times now ..not getting the answers you want???
Reply:Ask him what is he thinking. If he is your best friend he won%26#039;t be afraid to tell you.
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
The way many spouses whine and talk in here, you would think that they were carrying the world on their shoulders. In the meantime, their hubbies are working 8, 10 or more hours to bring home enough bacon to live. That muhla also allows the spouse to go to coffee clatches, shopping, and making herself pretty. Then she gets pissed off when he doesn%26#039;t bring flowers, a card or forgets a birthday, or anniversary. Then she needs affection, not sex. Thanks. Like, I%26#039;m working all day, tired and she wants nonconsumptive loving. I%26#039;m going to bed! Tell me your opinion.
Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
Huh?
Reply:Part of being married is about being considerate of your spouses feelings such as remembering such important dates and working to keep the romance alive. Just tell her to be more considerate of your and stop whinning so much. There needs to be a little give and take to make things work.
Reply:OK what your alternative? I would much rather come home to a loving wife... than a loving civil partnership. (Sorry I don%26#039;t bend that way.)
Actually my Mrs... cleans the home cooks my meals takes care of our three children and is very frugal with money. She%26#039;s a stay home mom. I couldn%26#039;t ask for a better wife and mother for my children.
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What is %26quot;nonconsumptive loving%26quot;? Non-consuming... Is that loving with out affection... so She wants plain old non-affectionate sex? Or do you want %26quot;non-affectionate%26quot; sex?
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
Huh?
Reply:Part of being married is about being considerate of your spouses feelings such as remembering such important dates and working to keep the romance alive. Just tell her to be more considerate of your and stop whinning so much. There needs to be a little give and take to make things work.
Reply:OK what your alternative? I would much rather come home to a loving wife... than a loving civil partnership. (Sorry I don%26#039;t bend that way.)
Actually my Mrs... cleans the home cooks my meals takes care of our three children and is very frugal with money. She%26#039;s a stay home mom. I couldn%26#039;t ask for a better wife and mother for my children.
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What is %26quot;nonconsumptive loving%26quot;? Non-consuming... Is that loving with out affection... so She wants plain old non-affectionate sex? Or do you want %26quot;non-affectionate%26quot; sex?
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
The way many spouses whine and talk in here, you would think that they were carrying the world on their shoulders. In the meantime, their hubbies are working 8, 10 or more hours to bring home enough bacon to live. That muhla also allows the spouse to go to coffee clatches, shopping, and making herself pretty. Then she gets pissed off when he doesn%26#039;t bring flowers, a card or forgets a birthday, or anniversary. Then she needs affection, not sex. Thanks. Like, I%26#039;m working all day, tired and she wants nonconsumptive loving. I%26#039;m going to bed! Tell me your opinion.
Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
Please allow me to inform you sweetheart that not all spouses are stay at home wives, and believe it or not they work just as long and hard without assistance at home from
the hubby , yet, not all but some couples try very hard to have a work life balance and my take on that is making the right choice when choosing a life partner ie husband , wife, or
significant other, However, just for FYI know one appreciates being taken for granted.
Reply:Where do you live.
75% of women also work 8, 10 or more hours a day....and then she comes home and works another 4-5 hours.
If you%26#039;re married you should sit back and watch all the things your wife does and contributes and then say %26quot;thank you%26quot;.
Reply:ok, so while you are sitting on your but for only 8 hours, I%26#039;m up at the crack of dawn with the baby, after being up half the night with the baby. Then you come home and it%26#039;s my job to make sure the house is clean, cook dinner for both you and the baby, get the baby fed and bathed and into bed while you sit on the couch watching tv. Then I clean up the dishes that I didn%26#039;t dirty by myself, put out the trash, and throw in one last load of laundry, just to make sure you have clean clothes for work. Then when I finally crawl into bed about midnight, because the baby woke up from teething and cried for two hours, you want me to climb on top of you and make YOU feel wonderful for 15 minutes, after I spent the day chasing after the baby, cleaning toilets, scrubbing floors, washing windows, and then you roll over and go to sleep. While I get to get up again, feed the baby, and I might get to sleep about 3 am. Then I%26#039;m up again at 5:30 to do it all again. And I have this routine everyday after only 2 1/2 hours of sleep, and you get a full 8 hours, and you are actually complaining that you have to sit on your *** for 8 hours, do some paperwork, then come home to a clean house, and a hot dinner waiting for you. Yea, what a trade off. Oh our lives are wonderful.
Reply:Well, first of all, people come here when they need problems fixed, not when things are going well. So clicking around on Yahoo Answers is probably not the best way to gauge people%26#039;s marital happiness.
And second, it sounds like you have some vaguely anti-women problems to work through. Have you ever shared a living space with a women who worked the same hours as yourself, splitting the housework between the two of you? If not, you should attempt it. Your attitudes will change.
Reply:Well lets see.. I get up first in the morning, dress myself %26amp; the kids and make mine %26amp; the kids breakfasts %26amp; lunches, then I take everyone where they need to go. I too work and 8 - 10 hour day then I pick everyone up from work/school. Go home cook dinner, bathe children, put them to bed and clean up anything that needs it. On the weekends, I clean house and do laundry.
My husband gets himself ready in the mornings, goes to work then comes home and sits in front of the computer. On the weekends he does get up with the kids on Saturdays, but that%26#039;s it.
Yes, he makes more money than I do but that%26#039;s because I was too busy putting him through college and raising our son to attend college.
So yeah I guess we are whinny and needy but it%26#039;s for a really good reason. We are carrying the weight of our family%26#039;s world on our shoulders.
Reply:My ex was on disability, but did anything he wanted, except work. I, on the other hand, up until my ninth month of pregnancy, worked from 7 a.m. until 10:30 p.m. through the week, and at least 4 hours on Sat. Now that we%26#039;re divorced, I wonder what he did with all his time, because I still did the housecleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. By the way, now, I%26#039;m a single mom with sole custody and he%26#039;s still borrowing money from me and didn%26#039;t even make or buy his daughter anything for her birthday or christmas last year.. So, guess you are stereotyping and making generalizations, huh? There are worthless people in both genders.
Reply:i spend nearly two hours on the road driving to work five days a week. my husband works about five minutes from home. we work the same hours, plus we take classes still. BUT, when i come home, i%26#039;m the one who figures out dinner, picks up his trash, cleans up after him. sure, he helps out some, but he doesn%26#039;t scrub the toilets, clean the mirrors, make the bed, sweep and mop, or even dust. so, if you think i don%26#039;t have the right to expect a little more from him, then that%26#039;s your problem. but don%26#039;t come on here and make a wide generalization about women whining and complaining, and then make the assumption that only men work long hours. i do both, buddy, so get off my back!
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i see you gave everyone a thumbs down for giving their opinion. next time you should clarify that you only want our opinion if it%26#039;s misogynistic and agrees with your anti-woman attitude.
Reply:hehehe you%26#039;re funny. Well it is true, although i am a woman myself. I guess that%26#039;s how we are, i mean i dont even know. Obviously it%26#039;s not the same for every situation, but...i dont know.
Reply:Nonconsumptive?
So, what you want is to go home and just bang your wife and then get away from her ASAP?
No, I%26#039;m being obnoxious, I%26#039;m sorry. It just seems like you%26#039;re pissed off about something to do with that %26quot;men are from mars, women are from venus%26quot; thing and I don%26#039;t think anything we say is going to help.
We women want to feel like you%26#039;re happy to see us, and not just below the waist. And if you want to have sex with us, we have to feel like you like us and care about how we feel. I know that%26#039;s not always hot, but that%26#039;s just how it is. And yeah, that includes remembering birthdays and stuff. It%26#039;s like, if you%26#039;re going to make a life with someone, you want to have their back - and that means caring how they feel. If you can explain to your wife that you care how she feels and that maybe you don%26#039;t know how to make her see that, it%26#039;ll go a long way.
Sorry for the crappy advice. I get annoyed with guys for being so low-emotion too - it goes both ways.
I know guys don%26#039;t feel the same way, and that guessing what a woman needs is a pain in the butt. I wish it was different.
Reply:You are sure gonna get the rise out of people that you were hoping for.
We all work all day, dear. Of course, you already know that, huh? ;)
And just for a reality check for ya. Here%26#039;s my scenario and I%26#039;m more than good with it.
I work all day just like my dear hubby. He IS going to help clean, cook, take care of pets, kids and do everything else that gets done.. and I don%26#039;t need to threaten him with sex %26#039;cause I like it just as much he does (if not more).
We both live by the following motto: When mama ain%26#039;t happy, ain%26#039;t nobody happy.
Now you sweet guys can get on here and spout all the crap you want, but you, I, and every other person reading this message knows that motto is true.
Reply:Welcome to 2007. Why don%26#039;t you join us? Females do all of the housework, take care of the kids, do the laundry, cook dinner, and most often than not, work 8-10 hours a day as well. Men come home and ***** about whats for dinner. How do you like them apples you chauvinistic pig.
Reply:Calling the kettle black...here you are whinning as well. Seriously, you can%26#039;t say %26quot;ok, you work hard so I have absolutely no right to complain or make the rest of my relationship work.%26quot; Your life is completely different from everyone elses. And, you are also assuming here that the husbands are the only ones working and making any money. We don%26#039;t live in the 50s anymore, fella.
Reply:grow up and be a real man
Reply:wives usually have a 9-5 on top of their marital duties... if she wants a little affection she probably deserves it. idk where you come from but where i come from women earn their money just like men, they don%26#039;t just get an allowance handed to them by their husband. i know i sure by my own coffee, take myself shopping and get my hair done on my own paycheck.
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
Please allow me to inform you sweetheart that not all spouses are stay at home wives, and believe it or not they work just as long and hard without assistance at home from
the hubby , yet, not all but some couples try very hard to have a work life balance and my take on that is making the right choice when choosing a life partner ie husband , wife, or
significant other, However, just for FYI know one appreciates being taken for granted.
Reply:Where do you live.
75% of women also work 8, 10 or more hours a day....and then she comes home and works another 4-5 hours.
If you%26#039;re married you should sit back and watch all the things your wife does and contributes and then say %26quot;thank you%26quot;.
Reply:ok, so while you are sitting on your but for only 8 hours, I%26#039;m up at the crack of dawn with the baby, after being up half the night with the baby. Then you come home and it%26#039;s my job to make sure the house is clean, cook dinner for both you and the baby, get the baby fed and bathed and into bed while you sit on the couch watching tv. Then I clean up the dishes that I didn%26#039;t dirty by myself, put out the trash, and throw in one last load of laundry, just to make sure you have clean clothes for work. Then when I finally crawl into bed about midnight, because the baby woke up from teething and cried for two hours, you want me to climb on top of you and make YOU feel wonderful for 15 minutes, after I spent the day chasing after the baby, cleaning toilets, scrubbing floors, washing windows, and then you roll over and go to sleep. While I get to get up again, feed the baby, and I might get to sleep about 3 am. Then I%26#039;m up again at 5:30 to do it all again. And I have this routine everyday after only 2 1/2 hours of sleep, and you get a full 8 hours, and you are actually complaining that you have to sit on your *** for 8 hours, do some paperwork, then come home to a clean house, and a hot dinner waiting for you. Yea, what a trade off. Oh our lives are wonderful.
Reply:Well, first of all, people come here when they need problems fixed, not when things are going well. So clicking around on Yahoo Answers is probably not the best way to gauge people%26#039;s marital happiness.
And second, it sounds like you have some vaguely anti-women problems to work through. Have you ever shared a living space with a women who worked the same hours as yourself, splitting the housework between the two of you? If not, you should attempt it. Your attitudes will change.
Reply:Well lets see.. I get up first in the morning, dress myself %26amp; the kids and make mine %26amp; the kids breakfasts %26amp; lunches, then I take everyone where they need to go. I too work and 8 - 10 hour day then I pick everyone up from work/school. Go home cook dinner, bathe children, put them to bed and clean up anything that needs it. On the weekends, I clean house and do laundry.
My husband gets himself ready in the mornings, goes to work then comes home and sits in front of the computer. On the weekends he does get up with the kids on Saturdays, but that%26#039;s it.
Yes, he makes more money than I do but that%26#039;s because I was too busy putting him through college and raising our son to attend college.
So yeah I guess we are whinny and needy but it%26#039;s for a really good reason. We are carrying the weight of our family%26#039;s world on our shoulders.
Reply:My ex was on disability, but did anything he wanted, except work. I, on the other hand, up until my ninth month of pregnancy, worked from 7 a.m. until 10:30 p.m. through the week, and at least 4 hours on Sat. Now that we%26#039;re divorced, I wonder what he did with all his time, because I still did the housecleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. By the way, now, I%26#039;m a single mom with sole custody and he%26#039;s still borrowing money from me and didn%26#039;t even make or buy his daughter anything for her birthday or christmas last year.. So, guess you are stereotyping and making generalizations, huh? There are worthless people in both genders.
Reply:i spend nearly two hours on the road driving to work five days a week. my husband works about five minutes from home. we work the same hours, plus we take classes still. BUT, when i come home, i%26#039;m the one who figures out dinner, picks up his trash, cleans up after him. sure, he helps out some, but he doesn%26#039;t scrub the toilets, clean the mirrors, make the bed, sweep and mop, or even dust. so, if you think i don%26#039;t have the right to expect a little more from him, then that%26#039;s your problem. but don%26#039;t come on here and make a wide generalization about women whining and complaining, and then make the assumption that only men work long hours. i do both, buddy, so get off my back!
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i see you gave everyone a thumbs down for giving their opinion. next time you should clarify that you only want our opinion if it%26#039;s misogynistic and agrees with your anti-woman attitude.
Reply:hehehe you%26#039;re funny. Well it is true, although i am a woman myself. I guess that%26#039;s how we are, i mean i dont even know. Obviously it%26#039;s not the same for every situation, but...i dont know.
Reply:Nonconsumptive?
So, what you want is to go home and just bang your wife and then get away from her ASAP?
No, I%26#039;m being obnoxious, I%26#039;m sorry. It just seems like you%26#039;re pissed off about something to do with that %26quot;men are from mars, women are from venus%26quot; thing and I don%26#039;t think anything we say is going to help.
We women want to feel like you%26#039;re happy to see us, and not just below the waist. And if you want to have sex with us, we have to feel like you like us and care about how we feel. I know that%26#039;s not always hot, but that%26#039;s just how it is. And yeah, that includes remembering birthdays and stuff. It%26#039;s like, if you%26#039;re going to make a life with someone, you want to have their back - and that means caring how they feel. If you can explain to your wife that you care how she feels and that maybe you don%26#039;t know how to make her see that, it%26#039;ll go a long way.
Sorry for the crappy advice. I get annoyed with guys for being so low-emotion too - it goes both ways.
I know guys don%26#039;t feel the same way, and that guessing what a woman needs is a pain in the butt. I wish it was different.
Reply:You are sure gonna get the rise out of people that you were hoping for.
We all work all day, dear. Of course, you already know that, huh? ;)
And just for a reality check for ya. Here%26#039;s my scenario and I%26#039;m more than good with it.
I work all day just like my dear hubby. He IS going to help clean, cook, take care of pets, kids and do everything else that gets done.. and I don%26#039;t need to threaten him with sex %26#039;cause I like it just as much he does (if not more).
We both live by the following motto: When mama ain%26#039;t happy, ain%26#039;t nobody happy.
Now you sweet guys can get on here and spout all the crap you want, but you, I, and every other person reading this message knows that motto is true.
Reply:Welcome to 2007. Why don%26#039;t you join us? Females do all of the housework, take care of the kids, do the laundry, cook dinner, and most often than not, work 8-10 hours a day as well. Men come home and ***** about whats for dinner. How do you like them apples you chauvinistic pig.
Reply:Calling the kettle black...here you are whinning as well. Seriously, you can%26#039;t say %26quot;ok, you work hard so I have absolutely no right to complain or make the rest of my relationship work.%26quot; Your life is completely different from everyone elses. And, you are also assuming here that the husbands are the only ones working and making any money. We don%26#039;t live in the 50s anymore, fella.
Reply:grow up and be a real man
Reply:wives usually have a 9-5 on top of their marital duties... if she wants a little affection she probably deserves it. idk where you come from but where i come from women earn their money just like men, they don%26#039;t just get an allowance handed to them by their husband. i know i sure by my own coffee, take myself shopping and get my hair done on my own paycheck.
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
The way many spouses whine and talk in here, you would think that they were carrying the world on their shoulders. In the meantime, their hubbies are working 8, 10 or more hours to bring home enough bacon to live. That muhla also allows the spouse to go to coffee clatches, shopping, and making herself pretty. Then she gets pissed off when he doesn%26#039;t bring flowers, a card or forgets a birthday, or anniversary. Then she needs affection, not sex. Thanks. Like, I%26#039;m working all day, tired and she wants nonconsumptive loving. I%26#039;m going to bed! Tell me your opinion.
Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
I%26#039;d say only a small percentage of people actually are right for marriage. Most are right for something else, and as you mentioned, the folks here are the right type to rant - guys and girls.
The type you%26#039;re looking for is indeed out there.
Reply:your right most men work there asses off to try and give there hubby what they want when they want it.....and us women respect that
but as nice as the stuff you named off is....men have to also respect a women%26#039;s emotional needs...
and sometimes yes all it takes is you surprising her with flowers...but it doesn%26#039;t matter what you give her its the reasoning behind it....
all women want is for you to want to cuddle with them instead of maybe going out with friends some nights.... or maybe even asking her to sit down so you can give her a massage...
its not what you give her its showing her that you still care....
good luck
Reply:My opinion is that you are generalizing and projecting your experience with your spouse onto every other woman here. Personally, I make more money than my husband and both of us work hard. Remember that it was the two of you who decided to marry and probably a joint decision for her not to work; why the sour grapes now? You can renegotiate the work situation.
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Females, spouses are whinny, and needy . Do they do their fair share in the home?
I%26#039;d say only a small percentage of people actually are right for marriage. Most are right for something else, and as you mentioned, the folks here are the right type to rant - guys and girls.
The type you%26#039;re looking for is indeed out there.
Reply:your right most men work there asses off to try and give there hubby what they want when they want it.....and us women respect that
but as nice as the stuff you named off is....men have to also respect a women%26#039;s emotional needs...
and sometimes yes all it takes is you surprising her with flowers...but it doesn%26#039;t matter what you give her its the reasoning behind it....
all women want is for you to want to cuddle with them instead of maybe going out with friends some nights.... or maybe even asking her to sit down so you can give her a massage...
its not what you give her its showing her that you still care....
good luck
Reply:My opinion is that you are generalizing and projecting your experience with your spouse onto every other woman here. Personally, I make more money than my husband and both of us work hard. Remember that it was the two of you who decided to marry and probably a joint decision for her not to work; why the sour grapes now? You can renegotiate the work situation.
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What is she thinking?
so my girlfriend broke up with me 10 weeks ago. for 4 weeks after, she would call me for an hour or two a night, and send me alot of sms%26#039;s a day. said she was feeling closer to me. then she hooked up with a random guy, really regretted it afterwards, and told her parents what had happened (that would have been hard for her, she grew up in a really religious family). since then i%26#039;ve cut the contact, as i still love her dearly, and need to start moving on, since she is not good for me at the moment. we were both each others firsts, and she means the world to me still.
now...in the last two weeks, she has a new boyfriend. but she still has the flowers i gave her on our 6 month anniversary in her room (long dead, but her sister said she refused to throw them out), and a mutual friend of ours said she talks about me alot when they hang out together.
does all that mean anything? has she completely moved on? is there a chance still? its all pretty confusing....
What is she thinking?
since u were eachothrs firsts shes probly missinng u ALOT!! the way i hear she talks about u she sounds like she still luvs u..hooking up wuz just a way of trying to get ovr u..i bet u ANYTHING it didnt work! her boyfriend now is probly a way ov tryin 2 forget u..i havnt seen my first since JUNE but i think about him evry day..i took about 6 mths to cut my crying down a couple nites a week..she REALLY misses u..pleeze talk 2 her:) VERY GOOD LUCK!
Reply:everyone remembers thier first and holds on to that memory. sounds liek she has been dating a few guys and is %26quot;trying the field%26quot; to see how different everyone is, she might come back to you or find someone she thinks is better for her. you never know, but if she isnt good for you at the moment then cutting off the contact is good. you can always talk to her again whenever you want. it is good that you still have feelings for her, she does for you it sounds like. so she hasnt moved on completly.
hope this helps and I wish the best for both of you.
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now...in the last two weeks, she has a new boyfriend. but she still has the flowers i gave her on our 6 month anniversary in her room (long dead, but her sister said she refused to throw them out), and a mutual friend of ours said she talks about me alot when they hang out together.
does all that mean anything? has she completely moved on? is there a chance still? its all pretty confusing....
What is she thinking?
since u were eachothrs firsts shes probly missinng u ALOT!! the way i hear she talks about u she sounds like she still luvs u..hooking up wuz just a way of trying to get ovr u..i bet u ANYTHING it didnt work! her boyfriend now is probly a way ov tryin 2 forget u..i havnt seen my first since JUNE but i think about him evry day..i took about 6 mths to cut my crying down a couple nites a week..she REALLY misses u..pleeze talk 2 her:) VERY GOOD LUCK!
Reply:everyone remembers thier first and holds on to that memory. sounds liek she has been dating a few guys and is %26quot;trying the field%26quot; to see how different everyone is, she might come back to you or find someone she thinks is better for her. you never know, but if she isnt good for you at the moment then cutting off the contact is good. you can always talk to her again whenever you want. it is good that you still have feelings for her, she does for you it sounds like. so she hasnt moved on completly.
hope this helps and I wish the best for both of you.
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