No sex in 2 years living together 3 years?????

long time ago we did it like rabbits. now i am LUCKY to get it on our anniversary. I make dinner 98% of the time, bring home flowers and all that crap constantly, clean house, i work more hours than her (as an architect) and she NEVER wnats to do anything sexual? she seems to conside it %26quot;dirty%26quot; even though we have been together 5years???????????????

No sex in 2 years living together 3 years?????
Surprised you are still around...honestly. You are a trooper! Maybe her sex drive is non-existant. If she is taking medication it may be effecting her. Ask her to go to the doctors and have it checked out. Sounds like some counseling would be beneficial too, to say sex is %26quot;dirty%26quot;. Marriage counseling would also be of benefit. Best of luck.
Reply:Considering it %26quot;dirty%26quot; sounds like a lame excuse. but i guess It could be a psychological or medical problem that can be looked into. Is it possible that you try to hard. Maybe acting like you don%26#039;t want to have sex yourself will make her actually want to have sex. It worked for a friend
Reply:If your relationship is ok outside of the sex part then I wouldnt worry too much, but you should talk to her about what is going on and what the reason is. Communication in a relationship is more important than sex.
Reply:Maybe she needs some counselling. Have you considered that??? Ask her about her life, how she feels about things. Good Luck.
Reply:Maybe she thinks that u have been unfaithful! Maybe she is stepping out! 3 yrs is not long at all!! ~You should still be going like rabbits~
Reply:sounds to me like she is getting alright just not from you
Reply:Maybe you should ask her to her face what%26#039;s going on, because either she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere or something BIG is WRONG in your relationship!!!
Reply:This is really depressed. There is something wrong with your wife I believe. I suggest counceling, seriously.





Or has she been getting it from somewhere else? Just a thought.
Reply:Is she getting it elsewhere?


Not to be rude, but thats normally the case.
Reply:wow what a super guy wish i met you when you were single.
Reply:Then something must be terribly wrong somewhere. try to figure out what (if anything) has changed along the line since this ugly situation started.
Reply:Sorry if she is health woman not over 65. she has sex more then that. she might be cheating on you. If she, is I think you know and it is more then just the sex. The way she acts around you chages you notice it, too.
Reply:I can%26#039;t help but feel sorry for you. I do the same thing to my husband. The only reason why I can say this happens is that, while we think about sex, and love you so much; we just don%26#039;t want to go through with the act. Wometn are getting more mentally exaughsted then we ever used to. We start out wanting it, and then we just turn the act around in our minds to that we don%26#039;t want it for whatever reasons - not getting hurt, was my partner pleasured, work, kids, bills, etc...the only thing i can say is to talk to her, or get some marriage counseling.
Reply:Something has changed in your relationship. Either she is bored with sex or maybe she has found someone more exciting. Try some romance. Make her feel special. Find a way to spice things up and spark her interest. Talk to her and find out what it is she wants. Try to find out what might have changes. Good luck
Reply:You need to go talk to her about it. There%26#039;s obviously something going on. If you truly care about the relationship and she won%26#039;t talk to you about it, insist on couples counseling. This is a symptom of a bigger problem. Good luck.
Reply:make her go to the Dr to rule out any medical problems then go to canceling with her
Reply:Some people are just not compatible. Sounds like when love was new, she was willing to make compromises for you. But now she has you trained, she doesn%26#039;t have to make any concessions to you - you%26#039;re doing everything to please her, without her having to make any effort.





If you can%26#039;t sit down and discuss this honestly, then there%26#039;s something hugely wrong with your relationship in other ways, too. A successful relationship is all about communication - without it, it%26#039;s doomed. Make her sit down and talk about this. If she won%26#039;t, you have your answer.
Reply:.......and you married her because?


Have you brought this to her attention? Do you see the two of you together in another year?


There is another man involved I%26#039;m affraid. If you can not resolve this then you need to call it quits. Cut your loses and move on. That may sound harsh, But it is something you should consider.


Good Luck..........
Reply:Well, that%26#039;s the problem you expect it.





Seduction is an art, bringing flowers is not seduction, neither is cleaning the house.





Take her out on a date. Don%26#039;t expect it, just take her OUT to dinner, hold her hand, compliment her.





It%26#039;s the little things that count.





Cleaning the house is NOT a form of seduction, I don%26#039;t know what gave you that idea. Plan a trip.





Give her a nice massage, stop thinking about only you and what YOU do. Appreciate what she does.





Read what you wrote again.





Nothing you do is actually about HER.





Or hey, maybe she%26#039;s getting it elsewhere, because you aren%26#039;t in tune with her needs.





Sometimes CUDDLING is a nice way to get her going, be sweet.





You seem like you are a complainer.


No one wants to screw a complainer.
Reply:You Seem like a good man to me.....good man is hard to find......she should appreciate you for all what you down for her......because most of us never get that kind of treatments..... It sound like she have a plan doing things behind your back...i would make the first move....leave her before she does....you never knows what%26#039;s in her mine.....check her out!!!!!


Best wishes and good luck
Reply:So if you%26#039;re not married, what keeps you in the relationship?


Do you know for a fact she considers it %26#039;dirty%26#039;?


Guess it%26#039;s counselor time....to find out what the real issue is.
Reply:It%26#039;s been my experience that one should get ALL the pre-marital sex one can, because it by God stops once the ring slides on. Every ******* time...
Reply:Hi Bill,


My soon to be husband lived the same way with his ex-wife, turns out she had a plan, a dirty plan. She was getting %26quot;time%26quot; in, in the marriage to secure her financial future without him. She was awarded $662.50 a month in spousal support and half of his retirement funds for 7 years. They, like you, had sexual relations only on their anniversary. She always had excuses to not be intimate. So, if your married, be aware, she may have a plan and she may be seeing someone else on the side like my mans%26#039; ex was. Good luck.
Reply:shes getting it else where or has caught some thing of some one else . i been with my partner 23 years and we still 2 to three times a week
Reply:This is probably not going to be the best advice, but i think you should flip it on her, make her feel the way you do, unwanted, unapprettiated... see how she reacts to it. If it really bothers her you know that the problem is not that she does%26#039;nt care. If she just goes along with it without inquiring as to what is going on, then you have bigger issues. Be prepared for the worst. Good luck man.
Reply:Why are you still with her ?


Seems like you should have left years ago ...


Leave her..


Move on...
Reply:Im think she is getting it somewhere else dude.


Stop doing so many things for her.
Reply:It sounds to me like she has underlying issues in your relationship. Let me ask a couple things...do you watch porn or visit strip clubs or idolize sexy women in front of her? Have you had children? Maybe she%26#039;s not feeling sexy. Some things to try...try making a night all about her!! I understand that you need sex, however, trust me in the fact that is she%26#039;s satisfied, you will be too!! Pleasure her in every way you can...rub her feet, make her feel sexy and take care of her suxually for a night or two. She may need a renewed sense of feeling sexy and that when you do nice things for her that it%26#039;s not primarily to initiate sex.
Reply:well maybe she has just fallen out of love with you... Or maybe she is depressed that can lead to sexual desires not existing... however i am concerned with the way your question is worded maybe she feels like you think she owes you sex because u do house work and think of bring flowers to her as a chore or maybe she is having an affair.. don%26#039;t really know what to say to this one good luck
Reply:Is it worth asking one of her friends for an idea on what the go is.... females tend to unload on their friends. She might feel all the %26quot;crap%26quot; you do undermines her worth in the relationship which in turn doesn%26#039;t do much for her self-esteem and can lead to a bit of a shut-down (lock-out in your case) in the bedroom because it may be the only thing she feels she still has control over.
Reply:It could be a physical condition or some past trauma that requires counseling. Have you asked her what the problem is? If you are under 60 years old, this is not normal behavior and there is definitely a problem that needs to be addressed because we are sexual beings.





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