When you're not expecting a break-up..how do you handle it?

My daughter has been seeing someone for 2 years. He is almost 25, she is 23. They met her senior year of college, when he was starting his first year of medical school. They were able to spend the first year together in the same town, but when she graduated college, she moved to a big city to work and he is still at med school in a small town. They have been seeing each other 1x per month..but of late, they both find the long distance relationship very difficult. A few weeks ago he said that he could quit med school, she could move up there or they could break up. They talked it out and said they would try to get together at least 2x%26#039;s per month. She just spent labor day weekend with him and everything was great. For their 2 year anniversary last week, he sent her flowers. And tonight, he called her and said that this was to hard and feels they should break up. He then followed the call up with a text that said..%26quot;I know your upset and love you too much. I want to stay as close to you as you%26#039;ll let me.%26quot; She is in shock. She asked him if he was seeing someone else...he said no. I told her to lay low for a few days and not to call him. She doesn%26#039;t understand, nor do I. I told her that he was either going crazy or he was a louse for breaking up with you over the phone....and his true colors might be showing. He is very spoiled as he comes from a lot of money and always gets what he wants. She is not ready to get married yet, nor do I believe that he is. Your advice for what she should do/say would be helpful...thanks!

When you%26#039;re not expecting a break-up..how do you handle it?
Tell her to continue with her education. If he wants to talk, she will talk, but only in her free time. She has a lot going for herself and she should not let him take that away by making her stress. He needs to do the same thing for himself and not quit med school. Or then again, it can all just be pressure and letting out some steam when he said for them to call it quits. Either way, tell them to inspire each other into finishing and accomplishing their goals instead of making it harder than it already is. Myself being 19 and already married with husband in korea is already hard enough. I have put my dreams of going to school aside for a bit. But because both of them are in school, they should use this time to inspire each other.
Reply:Let her deal with it her own way even if it means leting her eat the whole 5L box of choclate icream by herself and maybe tell her that he was finding a long distance relationship to hard (because if you think about long distance relationships don%26#039;t work because you never get to see them and there almost no chance of getting married or anything). just her let her deal with it her own way



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